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I think I got it now!  I think the trouble is he really wants me to go to bet at the same time as him.  I usually try and coach him to sleep with breathing and relaxation techniques and it’s really the only quiet time we get to spend together all day.  I know I need to change my work habits AND work with him on going to bed oh his own.  Maybe some CBT for him as well… <3

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We don’t have a routine – when we try it’s inconsist!  He avoids going to bed maybe because it’s boring or he’s not ready AND there’s nothing in it for him.  Every night and I mean EVERY NIGHT ends with arguing, yelling, threatening, guilt and tears.   If we don’t change I feel we’re all going to end up in a crisis situation.

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OMG there are so many things we need to change I get overwhelmed just trying to pin one thing :/

My youngest (12 yrs.) has great difficulty sleeping and sleeping alone (I sleep with him 99% of the time).  I know how crucial sleep is so I’m thinking that may be a good place to start.   Is that too general – maybe how to get to bed earlier or getting to bed…

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Hi Elaine,

Thanks for your reply.  I will check it out, I think I’ve been there before in my web travels.  I’ve been to so many great websites,  Totally ADD really resonated with me because of the humorous take on it – makes it relatable for me.

I just really am feeling overwhelmed these days and for lack of a better term need to get my poop in a group!

I don’t know whether to start with myself or my kids or both or just my kids or my kids then myself – see what I mean…

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Hey, I’m mom to 2 amazing, brilliant, hillarious, wonderful ADD kids! (In my eyes).

Like so many stories I’ve read/heard, while my child was going through the testing process for ADD all the boxes checked off for me as well, and we’ve been going in circles ever since! We are not on medication and have been trying to implement strategies to no avail!!! I’m a do it yourself kind of gal so have been doing lots of research, BUT like the webinar I listened to yesterday (thank you for that btw) I know what I need to do but just can’t do it! Most recently I’ve gone through a CBT program, and a wonderful MBSR program (loved both and got so much out of them) but here I am again…. Looking for help!!

I am so frustrated and feel like I’m the worst parent, wife, friend, daughter, sister, aunt on this planet. Can’t make anything stick, nagging, fighting, yelling, overuse of elecronics, workaholic just a few struggles to mention. I am really not a group therapy person, can’t afford a coach, and could easily become a recluse!!! I’m trying to help everyone and am getting NO WHERE!! Any direction will be helpful before I completely destroy the future for my children! Oh and did I mention as an added bonus I’m peri-menopausal!

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