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I also found David Allen’s books on Getting Things Done to be really useful. He put it in a context so that I could see that being organized would give me more time to be creative and spontaneous, and spend less time on frustrating fiddly crap.
REPORT ABUSEThe thing about the diagnosis, for me, was that for a while it was all I could think about. It was all I wanted to talk about. Kind of like a new parent with their first baby. In a way, I guess the new baby was me, cause it was kind of a rebirth. Does that sound melodramatic? It’s just that discovering why I was not good at so many things that others took for granted, and really good at things that scared the bejeebers out of most people, like speaking in public, suddenly meant that everything and everything was up for grabs. stuff I’d given up on or shut down around, like owning my own business, were suddenly a possibility again, now that I was aware of my weak points. And my strengths.
REPORT ABUSERiver, I’d say start with the yellow pages, and look under bookkeepers. You could also talk to someone at your bank if it’s a big enough sum. The other source is to talk to someone you know who has their finances handled, and ask them who they use and who they trust.
There’s a ton of financial systems and software out there, lots of them quite good.
The question is always, like all the kinds of diets out there and exercise programs, can you stick to them? You want to pick one system and then stick with it. Ah, there’s the rub. But like so many strategies for ADHD sometimes part of it is simply building the routine and making it easy and accessible.
Like if you have a system that requires you to write out all your expenses at the end of the day, then put the ledger book where you write the numbers on top of your pajamas, or your pillow. Maybe put a big post it over your bed to remind you. (At least for the first few weeks, until it becomes a habit.)
REPORT ABUSEVeronica, your message triggered a thought. (What doesn’t trigger thoughts in a person with AHD!)
There’s a great line in the movie Adaptation, perhaps the whole point of the movie, and it goes something like this, “Who you are is not defined by who loves you. Who you are is defined by what you love.”
REPORT ABUSETigger said so much that I recognized in myself. And since this isn’t a disease or an illness, it’s not something you catch or develop, unlike say Depression, there may be a different way to frame it.
You could say that rather than being diagnosed, you discovered you have ADHD. The diagnosis is good news and bad news. And it really is what you make of it, I think. And we all do both, right? When I’m aware of my symptoms, when I’m playing to my strengths and working around the areas where I struggle, it’s a good thing. When I’m thinking about how it’s unfair, or embarrassing or what my life could have been had I known earlier… Well, it’s a bad thing. But I can’t imagine not knowing. Instead of thinking about what might have been, had I been diagnosed earlier, I now think about what would have happened to me, and my kids, and my second marriage, had I never found out. Then I’m really grateful for the diagnosis.
REPORT ABUSEResponding to Nory:
What you say is interesting. I’ve been through so much in the last while, at work and in my life, that I’m not sure if the ‘frustration’ I feel sometimes is due to the Concerta. But I do know that the days I forget my pill, are more of a struggle. And for me to notice that says something. My wife wondered if I was being made more agitated by the Concerta, but again, she can tell when I haven’t taken it. Of course sometimes when there’s a lot going on, and I’m flustered, she thinks I’ve forgotten. The medication doesn’t eliminate the fluster, it just reduces it. And I can see that everything we’ve been doing for 8 months to get this website up, working seven days a week at some points, is a lot to be flustered about. Dunno. I’ll keep watching it. Thanks for sharing.
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