[willitlast777]

ADHD is something that needs to be learned about and managed.  My boyfriend saw a behavioral therapist and he manages well in all aspects off his life.  After two failed marriages and bad past relationships, he has learned to manage his ADHD without being on medication.

He was smoking pot earlier this year, and hasn’t smoked it since as far as I know.

I have nothing against people who choose to smoke marijuana.  Smoking pot/drinking/using other drugs doesn’t get rid of your problems.  Stoned or sober, they are still there, and you will have to deal with them eventually.  Pot may alleviate symptoms, but it doesn’t solve the problem.

 

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[willitlast777]

This is something that happened earlier this year in April.

I have been dating a man with ADHD since September 2015.  He has been very open and honest with me about everything.  He spoke about his past cocaine addiction, and his use of marijuana off and on.  He said that he stopped smoking because he was spending too much money on it, and he felt he was smoking too much of it.

I have never smoked marijuana, and at 51, have no desire to do so.  I also have a 13 year old daughter who already knows enough about it, thanks to an older cousin’s regular use of it.  I don’t want my daughter exposed to it, certainly not by someone I am dating.

To make a long story short, my boyfriend said that he wasn’t smoking pot anymore, and I took him at his word. I saw him take out a lighter from his jacket pocket, use it to light a candle, and put it back. (He quit smoking cigarettes 6 years ago.)  I saw him refill a sample vial of cologne and put it in his jacket pocket. (Back when he smoked pot on his lunch break at work, he would use the cologne to cover up the pot smell.) He was using visine to get rid of his bloodshot eyes.  He would text me to say that he was on his way home from class and take an hour to get home when the drive only takes 20 minutes. He was distant, and less affectionate.  I knew he was hiding something but couldn’t put my finger on it.

I suspected he was smoking it again, and waited for two plus weeks for him to tell me.

He finally admitted that he “had been doing something, and felt bad about not telling me”, after being pissed off at ME because I didn’t want to be bullshitted anymore.  I said :” So you must think that I’m stupid, and that I don’t deserve to know the truth. How many other people know about it”?  I felt like a fool.

In reading books on ADHD, I know that marijuana can calm an ADHD mind.  I worry that with his past addiction, it could become a problem for him.

 

 

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