”If We Only Had a Wife”
How many CEO’s, (okay let’s just say men) could do what they do if they also had to do what we do?
Answer: None. But if WE are the CEO, it doesn’t keep us from killing ourselves trying to do it all ourselves, and all by ourselves.
The Medical Version Of ADHD Traits Includes The Following:
Physical or Mental Restlessness
Difficulty Completing Tasks
Low Self Esteem and Self Awareness
Environmental Chaos and Clutter
Impulsivity (shopping anyone?!)
We all have days that we could answer “Yes!” to everything on this list. But for the ADD woman, every day is this list.
The ADD Woman’s Version of ADHD Traits May Look Like This:
You feel overwhelmed in grocery stores, noisy restaurants, crowds, or at parties.
You are surrounded by piles of unattended papers, bills, and things waiting to be filed.
Cleaning has become an archeological dig.
Packing for trips is a nightmare. You’d really rather just stay home and let them all go away.
911 is not an option. Nobody gets past your front door without advance warning.
You are too embarrassed to hire a cleaning lady.
When you do get it together you feel like an imposter, knowing that at any minute your dazzling carriage will once again become that moldering pumpkin you keep meaning to dispose of.
You either can’t think of anything to say, or can’t stop talking and interrupting.
Most of your day is spent feeling sick, wired, or tired; late, lost, or overwhelmed.
You are frequently running late; for work, for social events, or for an appointment, but most likely you forgot you even had an appointment.
Getting out of the house for anything is an olympic event. It’s not unusual for you to run back into the house 2 or 3 times before you’ve even made it out of the driveway (I tell people I’m not really gone until at least 15 minutes have passed without my reappearance).
You seem to spend an enormous amount of time every day looking for things you know are right there. You can’t find your purse, car keys, or even your car if you actually made it to that appointment and are now standing at the edge of the parking lot.
You have more projects on the go than Home Depot on a Saturday afternoon, and although you may be able to do them, and they may be able to help, rarely do you actually complete any.
Your To Do lists are prodigious, impressive, and tacked up everywhere. But you lay awake at night tormented by all the things that didn’t get crossed off.
In your heart you know you are brilliant, competent, and capable of anything, even though there is little evidence of that to the outside world, which breaks your heart a little more with each passing day, which also means you’ve probably already…
Been diagnosed with anxiety and depression.
But whatever else the ADHD woman may be, she is also a marvellous, adaptable, intuitive, sometimes quirky, but always persevering, one-of-kind woman!
You go girl! Your ADD is not the most important thing about you, nor does it need to define who you are. There is a whole host of your tribe waving and cheering you on from the Mother Ship!
Candace Taylor B.Sc. B.Ed. ACG
Coaching Support For Women With Attention Deficit Disorder
email: mctaylor at powergate.ca
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