By Rick Green
The question we get asked the most?
That’s simple: ‘How do I find out if I have ADHD?’ (If you’re asking this question right now, do yourself a favor and bookmark this blog page so that you can refer back to it again, and again!)
Maybe you suspect, or have assumed, that you are slow, weird, weak-willed, lazy, or any number of things along those lines. Maybe parents, siblings, teachers or others have suggested something like this. With the pace of life these days, I suppose everyone wonders if they have ADHD.
Here’s the deal: The modern world may well be making us more distractible, overwhelmed, and restless, but Adult Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD / ADD) is an honest-to-goodness neuro-developmental disorder. And, in order for it to be a disorder, by definition, it has to be ongoing, present in many situations, and impairing.
Lets Get Real
And by “real” we mean, do NOT let your self-assessment be derailed by the skeptics who are less than supportive at best, or downright abusive at worst. We’ve seen so many people with ADHD start to make real progress, then get hit with a flippant remark like, “C’mon, there’s nothing wrong with you. Just try harder!” Then they stop treatment and waste more years in needless suffering.
Here’s a much healthier path: Take our Do I Have ADHD? quiz. While it’s not a replacement for a doctor’s diagnosis, it can give you a quick read on whether or not you are showing the signs of having ADHD.
You can also watch our Unofficial Test video. It’s a lot of fun AND it actually covers a whole slew of ways ADHD shows up in your life. And, yes, both of these tools have had expert review for accuracy. If it’s like Ding! Ding! Ding!, and alarm bells are ringing, watch a few of the short, free videos on our website. The Unofficial ADHD Test for Adults is a great place to start to tap into that whole “knowledge is power” thing! If the bells keep ringing, keep watching. They won’t all be a match. ADHD varies widely, everyone of us has a unique combo of challenges and strengths.
If these assessments leave you thinking, “OMG! You’re describing my life!” check out our documentary ADD & Loving It?! It’s an eye-opener, and there’s many reasons it’s won awards, and changed so many lives.
Educate Yourself First – Be Your Own Advocate!
When people say, “Doesn’t everyone have ADHD nowadays?” I nod and say, yes. And doesn’t everybody have height? And weight? And intelligence? The question is, how much? At some point impulsivity, restlessness, problems with attention, sensitivity to emotion, and problems with memory, time-management, procrastination, follow-through, planning, and organizing can demolish someone’s life.
Download the ASRS Screener and ASRS Self Report Scale, created by The World Health Organization. The beauty of doing this is that, as you continue to learn about ADHD, figure out your challenges, and try new strategies, or start a treatment plan, you can re-do the test every few weeks to track your progress!
Be warned. Finding out if you have ADHD can be a huge turning point in your life. It was for me. Life is not going to suddenly be rainbows and sunshine, but if you keep moving forward, it gets better and better. (But never as quickly as we’d like! Ha!)
I’m Pretty Sure I Have It – What Do I Do Next?
At some point, you do need a qualified expert to confirm whether you have ADHD. If you have any doubt about the value of getting a diagnosis, our Comprehensive Guide explains why a diagnosis is important and how to make the most of the process. And there’s more good advice in our video that explains Three Aspects of a Proper Diagnosis.
How do you find a doctor? What do they do? Can I trust them?!
What a doctor SHOULD do is give you a full assessment. We talk about what that looks like in the videos here.
Finding a doctor who understands how to diagnose ADHD can be a frustrating. Adult ADHD hasn’t been recognized for that long. Until about 1990, doctors assumed kids grew out of it. But 2/3 didn’t. It took some follow-up studies on ‘the Ritalin kids’ from 60’s and 70’s to prove that a lot of ADHD folks were still struggling with the same stuff as adults.
It’s Never Black or White
Any ADHD diagnosis is a judgment call—there’s no blood test for ADHD. Not yet.
It’s not an obvious disorder, unlike a broken arm, asthma attack, or being a Kardashian. Even when you understand the common symptoms, this is a spectrum disorder. Everyone looks different.
No wonder many family physicians, and even psychiatrists and psychologists, don’t spot it. Want another complication? There are still a few doctors out there who don’t believe ADHD is real. So they misdiagnose or dismiss it! (I know, it is so infuriating. It’s why we are doing all we can to educate!)
How to find a good doctor? The kind you see on TV shows?
One ADHD specialist suggested finding a doctor who is just starting their practice, as they will have had far more training on ADHD than a family physician who has been at it for 30 years. But again, not always. You’d be amazed at how many people in the TotallyADD community tell us they are taking what they’ve learned at TotallyADD.com, and educating their doctor. Sometimes making them watch our videos, or read our blogs.
Try It On
While you are searching for a doctor to get an accurate diagnosis, you can keep learning more. That’s what is unique about ADHD. If you’re suffering from a broken arm, learning more won’t improve things much. For ADHD, learning more makes a huge difference.
An ADHD coach can help guide you, and we have lots of information about coaching on TotallyADD, including a Directory to help you find a coach who is specifically trained to deal with ADHD.
If you’re a reader, check out more of our blogs which are jam-packed with insights about living with ADHD. Oh, and they are also known to make (at least some) people smile. We’ve also filled our shop with the books that we think are the best. (I’m not being snotty when I say, ‘If you’re a reader.’ 40% of people with ADHD having Learning Disorders.)
Now You Tell Me?! F%#&!!!
Be warned. Getting the diagnosis later in life can be dramatic. And traumatic.
The older you are, the longer you’ve struggled, the harder it is to accept there was an explanation for so much of you’re suffering. You’re left wondering, “What would my life have been like if only I knew sooner?!” All I can say is that it’s a pretty universal regret. And there’s no way of knowing the answer.
I have to admit, I got stuck on that question for a long time. Which is why I created a video that deals specifically with this tornado of relief, regret, anger, upset, sadness, and blame that can erupt once you get a diagnosis. This video shows you how to cope and move through it. It would have saved me a lot of misery…
“I Don’t Want To Be A Zombie!”
If you’re wondering about the potential of medication, and nearly everyone does at some point, you’ll find answers to pretty much every imaginable question, concern, and fear you have, plus a lot of things you never would have considered, in our biggest video ever! Someone called it, “99 Short Films About ADHD Medication.” It’s amazing.
What makes it so comprehensive is that while 30 experts share their knowledge, we’ve also woven in the real stories of 18 adults who tried medication. Their experiences span the range from ‘miraculous’ to ‘made it worse.’ Which proves, as I said earlier, everyone’s issues are different. Finding what works for you can take time.
If You’ve Met One Person With ADHD, You’ve Met ONE Person With ADHD
The brain is complex. Plus, everyone’s life situation is different. When it comes to adult ADHD, everyone has a different combination of symptoms and challenges. Some are quiet daydreamers, others are gregarious extroverts. Some folks hyper-focus. My ‘impulsivity and blurting out’ is just great when I’m doing comedy—but not so much when I’m in a business meeting. Or so I’ve been told when I’m taken aside after the meeting.
So those are the steps to finding out if you do have ADHD. And, if you discover you do have it, what do you do about it? Two pieces of advice.
First, always be open to learning more about ADHD and yourself! Be aware that 70% of us have secondary issue. (Depression for me. Dyslexia for many with ADHD.)
Second, don’t take on 40 new strategies at once, which is easy to do in the early days when you’re impatient for change, excited that there’s hope, and eager to try every new tool and strategy, because, well, you have ADHD. Our enthusiasm can easily lead to overwhelm. For example, I thought this would be a short, 200 word Blog.
Finally, consider subscribing to our newsletter. It’s a quick, handy, update on our latest blogs, videos, and free downloads. I think it’s an ideal way to get smaller amounts of information each week as you’re on this journey. Good luck!
P.S. Do let me know in the comments below if this helped you.
And if you’ve already been diagnosed, do you have any thoughts to share to help the new members of the tribe?