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This is a really hard question because the line between an interruption and an interjection is not a constant. It depends on culture, situation, and demeanor. I find that in the US, interjection is not as common as it is in the UK. Recognizing situations where, no matter how pertinent, an interjection is not appropriate comes with experience, and it’s always best to err on the side of restraint. Interjecting without causing offense requires tact, and it’s important to establish the reason for interjecting quickly. If it just plain Interrupting someone, it’s always rude.

So being socially aware is key. The other issue I think, for some people with ADHD, is dealing with perceived interruptions to their dialogue. This can be especially difficult if their hyperactivity expresses as continuous talking. Combine this with the degree of ODD we seem to have, and people can get upset.

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Distracting thoughts while doing mindful meditation are all part process, and not an indication that it’s something you can’t do.

When a thought distracts your focus from your breath, counting, or whatever the focus of your meditation is, do not get frustrated, or annoyed. Acknowledge the thought and go back to your focus. If that is difficult, then try to feel if an emotion is driving the thought. Again, don’t get involved in that emotion, but accept it without judgement, and go back to your focus.

There seems to be many things going on during this process. The practice of returning to a focus after distraction, Not letting our thoughts take us off to places we don’t want to go at this time, and taking note of our emotions, but not letting them control us. An important part of this, is to learn to refrain from judging everything as good or bad. This is not the same as ignoring thoughts and emotions.

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I tried gluten free this year, and it was not good for me. I generally eat only high fiber whole grain bread and cereals carbs wise, and I think the loss of micro nutrients was very noticeable ADHDwise.

My wife and daughter are celiac, and I’ve been cooking Gluten Free for them for about fourteen years. It’s always been a real struggle to find good carbs and fiber for them. I would not recommend going GF unless you have an intolerance, or are Celiac. I think it’s better to just stick to less refined grains as much as possible. Avoid white bread and all that #%&. Of course the occasional french loaf with some Bree and Pate’, and maybe some good wine are permissible exceptions.

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drakeadonian, That’s good advice. Not only do we right-brainers do better when we have the big picture, arbitrary discipline and orders can exasperate any ODD tendencies.

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FWIW, I don’t fully understand all this stuff, but I have read the low magnesium levels affect the parathyroid glands. Something to do with vitamin D, which then affects insulin resistance.

So apparently the mineral content of the water we drink is quite important. So far the research emphasis has been on cardiovascular disease. Minerals like magnesium are involved in so many of the body’s systems, so it seems reasonable to think drinking hard water might be beneficial generally.

http://www.who.int/water_sanitation_health/dwq/nutrientschap5.pdf

For the last sixteen years I have drunk mostly reverse osmosis, or softened water, so no Mg there. Looking at my diet, my main sources for Mg had been good whole grain brown bread and anti-acid tablets. When I went gluten free earlier this year (DH & DD are Celiac), and could only find Tums for indigestion, those sources where eliminated……

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I would do quite a bit of research before taking supplements. They can interact with other medications and if you have other health issues, it might be wise to consult your doctor. Also, consider the bio-availability of supplements; they are not all the same.

I would guess you guys had your thyroid checked at the time of ADHD diagnosis, as hypothyroid problems can mimic ADHD. Raynaud’s syndrome is associated with thyroid disease. This was interesting

http://www.livestrong.com/article/545281-magnesium-raynauds-syndrome/

My wife has Hashimotos,

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From the studies I’ve been reading, there are several things going on that might be connected. Seems that most of us ADDers are magnesium deficient. This has as lot of implications as Mg is involved in so many of the body’s processes. For instance, one study found that children with ADHD tended to have higher blood pressure than their NT peers.

I’ve been working on my personal history, and the severity of my symptoms at different times in my life. There seems to a correlation to my magnesium intake. Periods when I drank mostly hard water, verses times when I only drank softened, or reverse osmosis water. Whether the anti-acid tablets I used contained magnesium, or were purely calcium. The general quality of my diet. Use of diuretics for blood pressure. All these changes seem connected to my ADHD.

Just google “magnesium circulation”………..

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One of the best ways to use coconut oil is in Indian, Malaysian, or Thai cooking. If you use the bars, you can grate it into marinades, or use it in sauces.

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Not sure where???, but I read about a study recently that looked at how people with ADHD perceive time as a matrix, and not in a linear way.

That made the most sense to me. I think we tend to learn most things by association of ideas. This is why we often have great lateral thinking skills. It’s not so much a skill, but just the way we stored our knowledge. Even before I knew anything about ADHD, I had come to think of my brain as a concept matrix.

It would make sense that we learn to understand the passage of time in the same way, measuring time against how long we perceived a task to take in the past. I think though, that not having a sense of the linear and regular passage of time leads us to associate an incorrect, and often far shorter duration of time to anything we do. When we estimate how long something will take, it’s not a linear timed event we compare to, but how long we perceived it took. We are forever stuck, repeating the errors.

It’s really frustrating as I’ve grown older, to still always underestimate the time a task will take, even though I have half a lifetime of experience.

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I’ too have wondered about all those great minds, who down through the ages indulged the religion dejour of their time. A bit like trying to be President of the US without being a church going Christian I guess.

I used to be pretty comfortable with people of faith. I could see the structure and comfort it gave them. I assumed most were balancing their needs of the soul, with the realities of the modern world. The last decade or so has changed how I feel. A person who can suspend reality because it conflicts with their religious beliefs, is someone who is capable of lying to them self when it suits them to. Perhaps that is how we have evolved to deal with our existence in the past, but in this fast changing world, it is a dangerous and often immoral indulgence.

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Ginnie, as you say, functionality is crucial. I think that is what made the difference for me. The meds were really working and I could look at things in a very realistic way. How do we use these items? and how can I organize them in a way that is practical for an ADHD family?

Not quite the way I see things done in other peoples houses for sure.

Why I asked the question “I wonder if there is something about the process of de-cluttering on your own that instills a longer term commitment?”, is that I did most of the work, and on my part, things have worked out really well. I’m still enjoying being able to find most things, and I organized for ease of putting things away easily. I actually get a little dopamine rush knowing someting is back in it’s place 😆 The rest of the household has not done so well. It’s still easier to dump stuff where ever for them, though they have improved quite a bit.

I have to look at the family as a work in progress, but now I feel some responsibility in leading them to a clutter free Nirvana.

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I wonder if there is something about the process of de-cluttering on your own that instills a longer term commitment? Having said that, I think watching a bunch of “Clean House” shows years ago helped me a lot. Much of the dialogue from the shows came back to me as I was attacking our house. Phrases like “it’s the memory, not the object that’s important”, and “when will you wear/use that thing” came to mind so often.

One of my pleasures in life is bargain hunting (hence all the junk), I have satisfied that need recently by always being on the look out for good deals on boxes and containers. If you just go out and buy what you need without a lot of shopping around, organizing a house could cost a small fortune.

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Anxiety causes ADHD symptoms to be worse, and that’s certainly the case for me. Until my recent diagnosis for ADHD, I had always assumed that my inattentiveness and forgetfulness were caused by anxiety as they appeared worse when I was under stress. I put the problems with motivation down to just the way I am, and was unaware of my emotion regulation issues.

What really made me sure the problems were stress related back then, was that I saw a huge improvement after I learned to use relaxation response exercises. Being calm makes all the difference in coping with ADHD.

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ADHD is a spectrum disorder like Autism.

theotherspinner, I think there are many of us that would be in your position at different times in our lives. There are many factors that might reduce, or increase ADHD symptoms and their impact on our lives. A change in circumstance, anxiety, depression, and even diet, might make a difference to the severity of symptoms and their effect. The net result can be someone who had coped well, then meets the diagnostic criteria.

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I torn by by this. If people knew that posting impulsive comments is a significant symptom of undiagnosed ADHD, a lot more people might put two and two together, and get the help they need. At the same time, I’m a little embarrassed that I still slip up occasionally. I had realized it was an issue for me before being diagnosed with ADHD, but these days I am extra careful.

The researchers didn’t put two and two together in the paper, or at least didn’t want to go there at this stage, but the findings certainly point to a high rate of ADHD in the “ill considered post” crowd.

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