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Thanks for posting this. My son, who is now 25 was diagnosed with physical/verbal dyspraxia as a small child. As a teenager he was given an Aspergers diagnosis. Between one and five years old he used to have what looked like mild seizures. It was this that we first went to the doctors about. Hmmmmm.
REPORT ABUSE2much2do, Glad you got the result.
My story is similar to Leopold’s, but over the last fifteen years or so, I had dropped many of the foundations of my coping skills. After the diagnosis, it is relatively easy to put them back in place. In fact more so because I can now see their value. Medication has helped me on this path, but I can see it’s a two edged sword. It became very apparent to me at the start, that the meds could even make things worse if there were no behavior change to focus on. I used to think that much of the things I used to do that under pinned my well being, were just reducing general anxiety. It is now clear that the biggest benefit was practicing mindfulness without even knowing it. For me, “regular and continuing” Progressive Muscle Relaxation, meditation, and adventure sports make a huge difference to how my brain functions in everyday situations.
I hope the meds help you find the other pieces to the puzzle too.
REPORT ABUSEThat’s spot on for me. I have to do something because I want to do it, not because I’ve been told to do it. This can be very difficult at work. I think I get over this by owning the task. I make it mine, and I make it personal (as in the tough movie hero saying, “this ain’t business no more, it’s personal’). It was much easier when I had my own business, but I can still make it feel that way most of the time. The problem comes when someone tries to micro-manage me, or when the task is a wast of time/illogical.
At home my wife now knows, if she wants things done, not to write me a list, but wait for me to put it on my to do list.
REPORT ABUSEThe cuisine from any country or region mostly comes down to a few simple methods. If you think of it in terms of concepts, cooking most dishes without a recipe is easier. There are only a few basic methods to make a sauce, to cook meat, to cook potatoes etc. National cuisine like Indian, Chinese, or Mexican use a few basic methods for most of their dishes. You only have to vary the basic ingredients. I used to read books on cooking, but really only as an overview. I don’t think I’ve ever followed an exact recipe in my life. I enjoy watching cooking shows occasionally for general ideas. This leaves you free to cook what’s available, or marked down at the store. Baking on the other hand is a whole different kettle of fish.
A great movie (in which one character reminded me of myself) that shows this approach is “Today’s Special” (it’s on netflix).
Which reminds of a good joke I read recently..
Two Adders are talking about cooking.
One says, I bought a recipe book once.
The other says, Did it help you cook anything.
The first says, I couldn’t find a recipe in it I could use.
The other says, Why Not?
The reply, Every recipe started with “take a clean dish”.
REPORT ABUSEMy daughter is 15 and often wants friends to come over. She’ll normally text me from school and then I look around at the kitchen, living room, and TV room, aaaaaargh. Recently I couldn’t figure out why some bowls and pans were missing, but then I found a box in the garage where I had hid the dirty dishes in a panicked clean up a few weeks before.
As to time, a few years ago I stopped wearing a watch as it seems so many people use their phones to check the time these days. Now I have been diagnosed and understand myself better, I realize what a mistake that was. I just have to get used to using a watch again.
REPORT ABUSEFor many people relaxation is something that can not be achieved easily. You can learn how to do it, but the chances of someone with serious anxiety issues just figuring it out are slim. From my experience, “progressive muscle relaxation exercises” are the best first step. These teach how to physically relax, Eventually you can monitor your physical tension, and relax your body at will. You soon find that physical relaxation helps to calm your mind. A relaxed body is the best start you can have to learning mediation techniques. The combination of relaxation and meditation made huge differences in preventing anxiety from exasperating my ADD symptoms. It does take some patience and perseverance at first. When I first learned how to use relaxation Response I was so afraid of having another panic attack, it helped to focus my mind. Once you are over the initial hump, it gets easier.
Their are many free progressive muscle relaxation audio files you can download, Start with a simple one, and then find one you like.
For an easy to read overview of relaxation and meditation, and their effects on the body and mind, I would recommend Dr Herbert Benson’s book “The Relaxation Response”.
Good luck with whatever you end trying.
REPORT ABUSEQuote : “Somebody once asked me if I were on speed. When I said “no,” she seemed surprised: “Are you sure? Then what ARE you on?”
I’m inattentive type, but when I hyper focus….. I had a couple of new electrical apprentices ask me that when I was showing them how to wire residential. Although I have mainly run large projects, I still love to rough in (electrical) new residential apartments and condos. I get totally hyper focused. It’s very fast work and to be efficient, you need have the whole thing planned out in your head. I even plan where I am going to place the ladder each time I move it, so I can minimize ladder moves and maximize the number of operations each time I go up it. Anyway, I had forgotten the two apprentices watching and was completely in the zone, When I remembered they were there and I stopped, one of them just said “are you on drugs or something”. This was long before I knew I was ADD.
REPORT ABUSEI was recently diagnosed at 55. Like so many others here, I have spent a lot of time reflecting on the past and two pivotal moments in my life were 1) when I bought a Filofax (personal planer) and 2) many years later when I lost it. There were things about the Filofax personnel planer that made it easy for me to use, week to view calender, fold out year calender, note pads, and most importantly the size was perfect. The aesthetic quality also made it nice to carry around and use. At the time I lost it, they were not easily available in the US, and there was nothing of similar size or quality. It’s taking a bit of effort to get used to using one again, but it’s really helping to have everything in one place including all the list I need to make. A digital planer would be nice, but at my age seeing the screen is hard and I can write much faster than I can type on a PDA.
REPORT ABUSEBTW I posted in this section because excited/relieved is how I feel every time some part of my past starts to make sense.
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