As I mentioned the other day we’ve been very busy doing a dozen things at once.
Stuff around the website. Renovations, rebuilds, the list goes on.
When I start to fear that it will never end, I pause and remind myself that at some point there will be nothing more I can do, cause I’ll be dead. Somehow that cheers me up.
Not just cause, “Hey, I’m not dead yet! So that’s good. Mind you… the day has just started, and the front steps are slippery, and 9 out of 10 fatal…”
BUT I DIGRESS
Where was I? Oh, right, I have an expiry date, as in BEST BEFORE MARCH, 2043.
Knowing that compels me to focus on priorities. Cause left to my own devices (And I own some great devices) I would simply do all the fun and interesting stuff.
Priorities. What’s urgent? Lots. What’s overdue? Even more than lots. What’s not urgent and can be put on the back burner?
Normally what I put on the back burner is anything that isn’t fun, or I’m stuck on.
The moment something gets challenging, I put it aside and switch to something new, interesting, fresh, easier. I procrastinate on some things.
So I don’t mind moving things to the back burner.
I have enough stuff on the back burners to fill 30 lifetimes.
I’M NOT GOOD WITH ENDINGS
The hardest thing for me is to actually let go of things completely. To finally admit, “I’m never going to get to this.”
To hand my tax paperwork over to an accountant. Or to take a project off the back burner, and toss it away.
Getting rid of stuff has become somewhat urgent.
We celebrated our fourth Christmas in a row in different houses.
So our stuff has been moved, and moved, and moved. Boxes labeled ‘To Be Sorted’ haven’t been opened since 2002. It seems getting rid of stuff, completely, as in gone forever is tough.
But letting go of projects or big dreams is the hardest of all. Why? Is it an admission that I simply will never get to everything because, gulp, someday I won’t be here any more?
One thing that has made it easier to let go of some dreams or long term goals has been knowing that I have ADHD.
For 30 years I’ve written and performed skit comedy. But I had ideas for screenplays. And, they never happened.
Before the diagnosis, I assumed I was lazy, uncommitted, took the easy way, way too comfortable doing skit comedy, afraid to fail, etc..
And this is someone who had written and performed in something like 600 episodes of television and radio, plus thousands of live performances.
That may sound impressive to most people. To me, it was simply something I’d done, and done fairly easily.
Since it came easily, or relatively easily, in my mind it was no big deal. Sound familiar? You have successes and you barely even acknowledge them.
Ask me about my shortcomings, failings, frustrations, weaknesses… and I could talk your ear off. When I ran out of ears to talk to I paid a therapist to listen.
THE END OF THE MOVIE
Once I understood my mindset, once got my head around, well, my head, it was possible to let go of my movie ideas.
I thought, what are the odds of me sitting at a computer working for six months on one script, and developing story arcs, and character arcs, and beats, and all the other aspects of creating a screenplay?
On the 1 in a 1,000 chance it will be turned into a movie? And not have it’s premiere the same week as The Hobbit, and be seen by 9 people?
Well, a screenplay ain’t gonna happen. It’s just not.
So I’m finding I’m de-cluttering my ‘bucket list’. Instead of trying to do 8,349 things, I’ve cut it way back. To about 8,341.
I figure another five or six more off the list and I can finally really focus on the stuff I reaaaallly want to do with my life. Exciting!
Hmm. I should develop a program about how to let go of long-held dreams. It could be so great. Yeah! I’ll just add it to my list of To-dos.
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