Parenting an ADHD Child
I struggled in elementary school.
I struggled in High School.
Guess how I did in university? Yes, I struggled. Sank into Depression in fact, though I didn’t recognize what was happening until decades later.
I struggled in elementary school.
I struggled in High School.
Guess how I did in university? Yes, I struggled. Sank into Depression in fact, though I didn’t recognize what was happening until decades later.
I have a lot of days where I can’t seem to get anything done. Other days I get a bunch of small, inconsequential things done. And now and then, I have a day where I’m actually feeling very productive, going almost non-stop.
You’re reading this because at some point you, or a loved one, saw a video, read an article, did an online test, or took our Unofficial ADHD Quiz, and the penny dropped, you thought “maybe I have adult ADHD”.
Is it fair to say that most of us who have ADHD love novelty? We are drawn to new things. New ideas. A new pic on Instagram. When it’s the same old stuff, we get bored. “That’s the way it’s always been done,” is comforting to some people, but to me that sounds like an apology. “We’re too afraid to mess with it” sometimes strikes me as a challenge, “We can’t possibly imagine how it could be better so we just live with it.”
It’s back to school time. Every September I feel the pull. The dread. School was never a great experience for me.
Each teacher phrased it differently, but all of my report cards bore the same warning: “Ricky is capable of achieving more.”
Recently I was named a Distinguished Alumnus of Renison College University, part of the University of Waterloo. It was a wonderful ceremony and a tremendous acknowledgement, especially of what we’ve done with TotallyADD.com. (I say we, because it’s a team of dedicated people.)
“Is there a list of great careers for people who have ADHD? Is there an ideal job that works with ADD? Can I make good living and succeed with ADHD?” Those are big concerns for adolescents with ADHD going to college. Or for adults who are struggling with their ADHD at their job. If they have a job.
The rates of unemployment amongst people with untreated ADHD are depressing.
“Who should know about my ADHD?”
“Should I tell the school about my daughters diagnosis?”
In those early days, after I was first diagnosed with ADHD, I told everyone. And that created problems. Don’t make the same mistake.
You have ADHD and you’re not sure who to tell about it, and who not to tell about it.
There are potential risks and rewards in sharing information about your ADHD.
I’m coping, everybody’s coping, and we can’t talk about it!
Those early days, after I was first diagnosed with ADHD, were heady times. My first reaction was a mix of relief, excitement, and alarm. Bouncing between “This explains so much!” and ”What does it all mean? And I damaged? What do I do about it?”