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@ Rick. I seem to remember being told to do this for long lectures. Stop every 45 minutes, give people time to use the restroom, discuss what they heard, etc.
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Then continue. I recently joined a local Toastmaster’s Club, and I am thinking, “AHHHHHHHHHHHH”. 🙂Hello beezneez. everything you wanna know about CBT, from an actual scientific community. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3673298/
When you get to the criticisms of traditional CBT, then you’ll see where my doubts come from. Also, you’ll notice the renewed interest, which leads to this article. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/adhd-behavioral-therapy-more-effective-drugs-long-term/
The clinician who spoke of CBT, when I inquired about it, just didn’t make it sound realistically viable to help me specifically. After reading those articles, I chose to sit this choice aside, but then again, I’m not interested in taking drugs either. It’s a pickle. Yep.
REPORT ABUSEWell you could use Google to look up any website I would direct you to it. I was first made aware of it in 1998, by a friend who’s a Vietnam vet, and went through this therapy for his PTSD. At that time, I wasn’t in the “market” so to speak, to be treated or realized I was suffering from PTSD.
In 2000, the company I worked for, had a program called EAP (Employee Assistance Program) where you’re allowed 3 free visits, for each issue, with a counselor. After that, you and your insurance paid for the rest of the visits.
After 2 sessions to fully explain what’s going on, my feelings, and so forth, I had originally gone in for anger management and he told me I was exhibiting signs of PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression. He recommended some drugs, but I sternly said no. It was then he brought up EMDR, gave me some literature about it, and a website to visit.
During my third week, I gave it a shot. Rather than describe what the websites will tell you about EMDR, I’ll go down memory lane and tell a short story about my experience with it.
First he had me hold a plastic fob in each hand, that had a wire from each one to a box he held. He told me to close my eyes, and begin talking about an issue I spoke about before in our earlier sessions. Then he asked, how it made me feel, and then he asked how I would like to feel. Then he said to concentrate on a ball of any color I choose, slowly sinking below the water, as he turned on the fobs, and the pulsed alternately. In other words, the left fob would buzz, then the right one, then the left one, and so on. The ball was supposed to represent my current feelings, the water was representative of that feeling being absorbed like a water drop into an ocean, and finding equilibrium.
So then I stopped it for a sec, and said this seemed more like hypnotherapy. I simply didn’t see this working for me, until I got home, and realized if I saw this as a tool, to bring all my focus to start to understand why I was angry, then maybe I could diffuse it.
Then I saw all of the problems as a plant, each has its roots, and realizing where those roots start, you can start to trim them off slowly, one by one, so you understand WHY something or someone is making you angry. It also helps you quiet your mind just long enough to look before you leap.
It took a year before I saw any real effect. Surprisingly, my insurance paid for most of the bill, and I was spending 10 bucks a week to get help. Not bad here in the USA. After that year, I was dealing with a cancer scare, that turned out to be benign, but it still had me on long term disability from work, for almost 3 months.
I hope this helps, grasshopper. 🙂
REPORT ABUSEYou could also have sleep apnea, which I know I have. It’s scared former girlfriends, who said I would be sawing logs (snoring loud), then suddenly it was quiet, and I wasn’t breathing.
As for vivid dreams, boy do I have those. About once every couple of years, I’ll have what I call an epic dream. It’s a dream that is more like a movie made by your brain, to entertain you. I keep a dream journal and I’ve been able to figure them all out. Sometimes, the meaning of the dream can be like a cold splash of water on your face, ie, you have a sudden realization of your true feelings that your conscious conveniently buried to protect you. It can leave you happy or rather lugubrious. Sometimes though, a dream was just your brain shuffling the images of discussions, your environment, what you saw on tv, etc.
REPORT ABUSEHey I had an idea this morning, to maybe help you? You said previously that you draft things up on CAD but never finish them. Well here’s an idea. Let’s start small.
Find some cardboard, have a hot glue gun, a ruler, a pencil, and a utility knife to cut the cardboard.
Now I’ll guide you to make a very simple house.
Cut out a square with 8 inch sides. This is your floor.
Now cut out two pieces measuring, 8 inches long and 6 inches tall.
Glue those in parallel onto the floor.
Now draw out two pieces measuring 8 inches (minus the thickness of the two walls together) long, by 6 inches tall like the walls. Now, find the center for the top and bottom lines, and draw a line from the bottom and 3 inches above the top line.
Now simply use your ruler to draw out the triangle, using that centerline.
Cut the two pieces out, and glue them to the floor and other walls, on the inside seam. You can use painter’s tape to hold the walls together, so gluing is more easy.
Almost done!
Before you begin, turn the cardboard so the corrugation is up and down, facing you. If you did this right, the corrugation should look like this: /\/\/\/\/\
Now draw out a rectangle that measures 9 inches by 17 inches. Find the center, and draw out the centerline. You can use your ruler (or the blunt side of a butter knife) and press along the centerline to make a crease, if you break the paper it’s ok.
Now cut out the rectangle, and fold it on the crease as even as you can.
Center the roof onto the walls, and glue the roof on.
Viola! You made a house.
I realize this sounds easy, and great for kids, but it also allows you to take the next step, take a deep breath, and now make the house again, but with windows and doors.
After that, just use your imagination to focus on what one thing could be added next, then do it.
Hope this helps, and hey, it’s a cheap exercise. 🙂
REPORT ABUSEHowdy. Well I’ve experienced using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and it’s helped me cope with PTSD, abuse, and low self-esteem (as you). Afterward about a year, I was nearly a different person than I used to be. Normally EMDR was used for veterans in the US, focusing on Vietnam vets. The material I’ve read about CBT, and speaking with a practitioner of CBT, the red flags were flinging around like grasshoppers avoiding the lawnmower.
REPORT ABUSEHey I have an Adruino as well. An UNO I believe, but it’s in storage at the moment.
Thanks for the compliment. The amount of energy it takes to focus on one thing, when you really want to go off on tangent ideas, is immense. Sometimes I end up taking a nap, feeling as if I just put in an 8 hour day of work, for 1 hour of actual work! So I am wondering if that’s attributed to ADHD or not.
Since I’m a Red Green fan, I would tell people the time it took to build something, by saying how many episodes I watched on the Youtube channel. My longest project took 116 episodes of the RG Show, but I would have to admit that I did waste too much time watching the shows rather than actually working. lol Or I’d see something Red would invent, that I felt compelled to make myself.
For example, the Canooler. A canoe made from old coolers. Only I would use my sawzall to cut the coolers into panels, use my plastic welder to fabricate a canoe, then cover the welds with duct tape, and take it out to my local lake to see how many looks I get. I thought it’d be a hoot. Sadly, I didn’t find ANY old or broken coolers in the free section of Craigslist, and the highways had nothing. But boy did I try to make it happen back in 2014. lol
PS: Did you ever get my PM? It’s not urgent, but I wasn’t sure if you had seen it or not.
REPORT ABUSEI like to learn by doing. But I have also disciplined myself to know to research what it is I want to learn, then (if possible) do it. Since I am not Rockefeller, I can’t just buy virgin materials like wood, plastic, or metal, so I use the demi-engineer’s favorite material, cardboard.
I rarely am able to build anything fast, but anytime I have a failure, the only money I lose is usually under 5 bucks. August of 2015, I was part of an engineering contest to come up with a new type of caulking gun dispensing tip. I came in 2nd out of 500+ entries, with no college degree. I was complimented for my presentation and for the pics of my concept model I built out of cardboard.
I used this way of learning to learn how to cook, amateur rocketry, building gliders, building watercraft, and business practice.
Cooking, I do alright, nothing to brag about, but nothing to be ashamed of either. I prefer to just cook for myself or visiting friends (dates).
Amateur Rocketry, the appeal of being the first person to shoot a sugar rocket to space was too great to pass up in 2009. I’m still learning new things every day, and now have a CAD program to design my rockets (and taught myself to use it on my own as well).
Gliders, this came about in 2011, when I was asked to consider joining the Red Bull Flugtag in California. I didn’t just want to win a prize, I wanted a record breaking glider to fly off their ramp. But my impulsiveness destroyed my opportunity. This also led to a human powered aircraft design in 2013, but nothing was ever started due to lack of space to build even a scaled model.
Watercraft, I seem to have a knack for making small boats, catamarans, and pontoon boats. I even had a brief time I built pontoon boats for a living. I even passed a federal inspection from the US Coast Guard.
In closing, I have 5 ideas I want to patent, then sell them. 1 is ready to be submitted as soon as I can afford the payment, 3 have concept models made, but no drawings or literature yet, and 1 that is yet to be worked on.
PS: Is there anyway to edit posts here, after you publish one? Thanks.
REPORT ABUSEKnock Knock
Who’s there?
Goomba.
Hey that reminds me of this documentary I just saw last night. It was funny and had lots of sculptures made from cheese.
Knock Knock
Huh? Who’s there?
Goomba.
Nope, don’t know any Goombas, try down the street.
Knock Knock
Gosh, who’s there now?
Goomba.
Wait, from Mario Brothers? The video game with the pizza eating turtles?
No, that’s Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, I said Goomba!
Wha? Are you a vacuum salesman?
Knock Knock
Who’s there?
Goomba.
Oh now that is weird, I swore I heard this before. Oh hey, a nickel!
Knock Knock
Who’s there now?
Goomba.
He’s not here, bye!
REPORT ABUSEheh, for some reason I could see you leaving the “room”, shooting finger pistols with a big cheesy smile. Back on task though, I was waiting until later this summer to see the doc, although I may go sooner now. I am beginning to wonder if my problems with a co-worker are because of me, or that it’s them with a problem.
Stay Dizzy 🙂
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