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Good idea, and yes, we don’t hear the positives often. Maybe though we do and just focus or register the overwhelming amount of negative?

I’ve been told my sunny disposition was irritating so it is very hard to please everyone for sure. I recall three years ago my boss asking me “not to change but to try not to laugh during meetings”, so I alter my impulsiveness and definitely my laughter during business hours in front of others. My suggestion is to be generous to others with those compliments and hopefully it comes back to you in some form of appreciation for your efforts. I am a “thank you” freak and tell most everyone they are doing a good job in my daily routine, i.e. the coffe shop, my lunch haunts, the dry cleaner, and so on. My assitant thinks she walks on water, although far from, but it certainly improves her response time and quality of work by acknowledging her in a positive way. For me personally, I have a tiny recordable bear that my sister recorded a message and I play it when I need a mood bump. Also at a family gathering I had my favorite people record the vioces stating the time with a funny message and it is a loving reminder some one out there believes in you.

So Munchkin GOOD JOB for the request and creating a positive stream! It was a good idea.

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Darn – must go eat potatos of some sort! Who can wait to mash them in total?

We have amazing brains, the bridling part is the problem. Harness our energies!

Yes, what is “normal”? Even taking meds, who is to say that is the real norm? It has always been one of my regular “ponders” to know how most everyone else thinks and stays on task.

Oh my, no dinner invites kc5jck 😆

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Shyness has always been a problem until age crept up. Finally you jsut stop caring. Ashocley55 is a mental war and if anyone figures out how to make the quiet, reasonable side win (without meds) let me know. But frankly ADD/ADHD hasn’t blurted something stupid out. We just tend to concentrate on our deficiencies instead of our great attributes. Your red might diminish when you let go of caring about what the rest think of you. As ADDers it takes picking your groups of those that accept and love you. I used to take a very deep breathe or clinch my stomach muscles to stop the blush affect. Hoep that helps.

Filmbuff1984 empahtize with you as well. Social interactions deplete me. Careful on the Net commincations though, everyone needs some face-to-face time. Try not to worry about if you “read” them right. You’ll figure it out eventually, if not they will probably explain it to you.

Hang in there Robbo, great suggestions Scattybird.

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Robbo it is a super blessing to read all the posts and see like-minded doing the same struggles. You are right, no one give up, one foot in front of another and keep trying. Vent or query, get the feed back and figure it out. It is clichey (?) but never lose your sense of humor, the quirks and challenges are easier if you retain the ability to laugh at the issues. Yes, some may have consequences so take the lick and continue forward.

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Oh if only I could sell all the duplicates of the stuff I buy! But like Wgreeen indicates time is money and the frustration isn’t worth ratcheting up so it is best move on. In the past wonderful assistants kept the crazies at bay but lacking a decent professional right arm these days the office nearly explodes with chaos. Thankfully I have a two person office where both of us work opposite days so a closed door keeps it barely noticable. The six or seven corpoarte visitors that happen by keep the walk ways clear. Good thing they think my services are worth it! Organization is perspective and subjective isn’t it really?

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Tiddler I thought I was the only dash queen – love a change of thought!

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My cure for the ADD job merry-go-round was finally landing the job/place where the interruptions and chaos are the norm and the super blessing of having an understanding ADHD boss (whether he knows it or not) who talks endlessy, interrupts as mush as I do, who won’t committ in print because his e-mails might be like mine which contain errors (although intelligent because I am unable to see or take the time to check them if Outlook/Word doesn’t catch them), has a terrrible memory, etc. Keep looking and you’ll find your niche or the ADD/ADHD boss who gets you, too, and will use your strengths while dismissing the weaknesses. I agree this website is a relief to see people who are so similar, enduring the same frustrations and coping as well as thriving. Hang in there.

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As always glad to know I’m not alone with this! This time of the year is the worst, the alienation, nerve-numbing social barrage of the crowds be it family or not, etc. On the negative side it is so much hypocrisy and commercialism. Just enjoy the small “accepting” side of the family and release the burdensome traditions.

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I am so grateful to find this forum! The shared stories are amusing and heartwarming to no end. The moments of forgetfulness are so colassal there isn’t time or room to mention. The job interview was hilarious, similarly I wore two different colored shoes to one of mine because I lost focus while comparing and just forgot the whole process – did not get the job! So, so many stories, mostly it distresses me to think of the frustrations I caused others and still sweating the very potential harm that could have happened,like a fire, etc., from my memory lapses. Mostly I remember the accusations of how I was lying from my ex-husband when I truly forgot. Finally people who sound just like me and it appears still surviving and laughing about it. I’m following suit.

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