[jojosephine]

@sdwa (sorry I am late-new to site). I am a freelance graphic (multimedia) designer. and there is no way i would be able to support myself with this. I can only do this because I am a stay at home mom (quit job to do so). and the freelance is part time (just supplementary income). The worst part is the business stuff, and having to meet clients face to face or on the phone. I wish I had someone to just do all that for me. I just can’t afford to pay someone.

@distractedmomma I left my job a year ago (which I had only been at for 2 yrs  –  1/2 that time on maternity leave) to raise my now 2 and 4 yr old. I feel guilt in doing it but I love being home with them. and I can do a lot of creative things as well. I just can’t let go of the guilt of being able to do this right now. I always say “if I don’t do this now I will regret it later”. I am scared for the time my kids don’t need me as much and I have to get back out there again. Will my skills be gone? Will I be that much more of a recluse? etc… I really want to connect with more stay at home mommas who have these same thoughts, it would be nice to know I am not alone.

How is everyone’s resumes out there? Mine are full of lies and half-truths (Excellent Organizational skills or the strong ability to multi-task-HA HA HA) not to mention my work history. I cant do another resume again. ARG.

Yep, the key it to fine something you absolutely love and have extreme interest in. Research, Art, music, whatever..I think maybe then you might be able to work 8 hrs/day 40 hrs/week …maybe.

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@pinkyxmcgee Thank you. I was diagnosed with “mild” ADD in grade 6. So I guess they decided meds werent for me. It was back in ’84 so I don’t know if they thought Ritilan was for hyperactive boys only and ADD ended when you graduated from highschool?!? I continued to struggle in school medicore grades with learning strategies and extra time on tests. When I became an adult, my daily and life responsibilites grew enormously (not just school and a part-time job anymore).  For 20 years of my adult life I failed at everything over and over again [post secondary school, relationships, jobs, career, friends, home, family etc..]. I know realize my failure is attributed to only my untreated ADD. I am waiting for medication. I can’t wait to see if this helps me to use the tools I have developed over the years and all the exciting new ones.

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[jojosephine]

great tips @dithl

good tip @kc5jck

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Hi,

So the meds do work yay!! I am desperately waiting to try the meds!

I can totally relate. I walk around for hours of my day looking for my misplaced items. And I get so angry at myself for it. HOW could I be so stupid. I carry things around so I don’t forget to do something with it and I put them down all over the place.

Don’t be so hard on yourself.  It sounds to me like you have just formed a habit that you just need to break.  After all you have been blaming yourself for 56 years.

P.S. I barely have friends, my family is very distant and I ruined my mom’s life too.

Please let me know how the progress with the meds are.  Which one are you taking? How long was your diagnosis process?

Jo

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My son is 4 and is being assessed for ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). Asperger’s is on that spectrum. I was diagnosed with ADD in grade 6. and just realized that for 20 years I have been suffering with untreated Adult ADD and it is impairing my life immensely. I realize now he is going through the wrong assessment. This is the age they assess for ASD so we will continue through. but I know now it is ADD. after he is done the ASD Assessment, I will get a diagnosis for ADD for him.

To be honest that is how I realized what was wrong with me after all these years and why I am suffering so much right now. I stumbled upon it when I was researching ASD. I saw that ADD can be mistaken for ASD. Which led me to researching ADD>Adult ADD>and there it was.

My son and I are not currently being treated and it is a scary mess. It takes us hours to get out of the house. Like right now I should be getting ready to go out..oiy!

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Hi sorry I am responding late, I just joined and this anger issue is one of my concerns

@improman

“I get overly frustrated recently with my children and it breaks my heart to see their cute little faces saddened because of my anger bursts. 99% of the time it is simply overreacting and totally not their fault.”

This is where I am now. My children are scared of me and I husband thinks I am psycho. My whole family is scared. I notice it when I am running late to get somewhere for a certain time.  This rage just flares up, instantly and ferociously. They are just smiling and laughing and doddling along. and inside I am thinking “I AM GOING TO BE LATE AGAIN”, then I think about all the things I have to do to get in the car (which are things like grabbing the back, getting my coffee, locking the doors etc.) Then I think how am I going to remember “all the things I need to do to get in the car”….well you know how it goes lol.

This all happens in an instant. And You are right “their cute little faces” saddened and scared.

Then when you calm down. You realize it has nothing to do with them. Do you know how many times I have apologized to my 2 and 4 yr old. 🙁

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I am not a doctor but in my opinion you have ADD.

I am waiting for treatment. and I am focusing all my attention on it too. researching and noticing behaviours in myself and others.

Just knowing that this is what I are dealing with is a huge relief.

The best thing you can do till you get treatment is hyper-focus on finding helpful tips for a non-medical treatment approach.

This is exciting.

All the best.

 

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I am awaiting treatment. I can’t wait not to be like that. Right now a have to force myself to stay focused. I am a stay a home mom and a freelance designer and I am slipping at all of the tasks I need to do in both. so it is so exhausting to do this and I usually fail at staying focus.

Before I realized what I was dealing with ADD, I couldn’t believe I did those things. Logically you think “Who in the world does stuff like this?” but you know how easily you just did it. So you accept it as normal behaviour. You even tell people in a “you know what I mean” way. Thinking they all do those kinds of things too. No wonder keeping friends and co-workers were failures. They must have thought I was looney.

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