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I don’t even get the mail. It would sit in the mailbox until the box was so full the mail carrier would not leave any more. My theory, mail is trouble, mail is bad news and mail is someone wanting money I don’t have. I stopped getting the mail after I lost my job 11 years ago. I did get it for about 2 years within that time when I delivered newspapers and my money came in the mail. Then I was cautiously eager to get the mail because the mail meant money. I still wouldn’t open the rest of it especially if I knew what it was. It got tossed in a pile, in a box, in the trunk, in the back seat, on the floor of the front seat until my daughter had no place to put here feet then it was brought in the house in bags and boxes which would sit for months or years. Most of the time i would pick out a few things i needed to attend to but that was it. I have missed birthday cards, Christmas cards, my daughter got graduation cards but she found them before they got too old (checks were involved). I have missed weddings and parties and other stuff that I really would like to have gone to.

If the mail is old enough I just toss it out without looking at it. Credit card bills from 15 years ago, who needs them? Old bills, old envelops with no return address (assumed to be collection notices) advertisements all just tossed.

My daughter gets the mail now. She hands me stuff when she thinks it might be important but if she hands me a pile of mail it remains a pile of mail unseen.

I know this is irresponsible. I used to look at the mail. I used to get it to keep my husband from getting it because he would remind me ad-nauseum of what bill to pay and when and yell at me if anything was late or had not been paid in time. I never could deal with being yelled at. Actually, now that I think of it the mail would have piled up back then if it were not for him yelling at me. He’s in a nursing home now so I don’t have to get the mail right?

I have been told about the OHIO method but it went in one ear and out the other.

I don’t know how to get past this other than getting rich overnight. If I had lots of money than bills would not be a problem then I would probably hire an accountant to pay my bills and an assistant to deal with my mail. I can dream can’t I?

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I had a part time job a few years ago working two days a week. I got through the first few weeks ok but then one wednesday I just forgot to go to work. I got a call from the boss finally and realized I had totally lost track of what day of the week it was! I forgot again a couple of weeks later but remembered and went in late and nearly forgot 2 or 3 other times and always on wednesday but each time was only an hour or two late.

I have to tell you about posting this and this is not the first time this has happened. I clicked on this subject and read a whole section and thought i a couple of things that happened to me that were funny and wanted to post them. Example of ADD and distorted time. I got distracted by something else and ended up on another website and then remembered that I wanted to post something and tried to go back. I had timed out on the free internet I was using.

I had to log back into the internet then back into this site, find the forum I was reading. didnt really recognize it but read a whole bunch more then decided to post again, got to the reply area and my daughter called to be picked up. So I shut down, pick her up, come back to the free Wifi, login to internet and site read a whole bunch more then decided to post again, cant remember all of the funnier story although its a lot like the UPS story, spend about a 1/2 hour composing post, hit send and I had been timed out again!

GRRRR

I am all loged in again and typing. I dont think its been two hours again. This is not the first time i have spent hours trying to post something. I spent 2 hours writing a very long post only to lose it because i had lost my connection.

My daughter keeps telling my “copy pastie is your friend” meaning to write this in a program like wordpad then copy and paste it here which i did a lot before they fixed the posting spaces so nicely. Now i think thats just an extra step why bother?

My other story was about leaving the house. I was having a terribly ADD morning running back and forth and freaking out trying to get to work. I finally got out the front door and to the car. I had forgotten my coffee cup and went back in to get it. I got back to the car, got in and turned the key then remembered I had forgotten something else more important. I got to the front door and realized I had left my keys in the car so I had to go back to the car to get my keys. Then i could return to the house to get the other thing i forgot and leave. I was two hours late for work that day.

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I crochet instead of knit. I started out knitting back in Jr. High. I liked it but I could not attach a specific reason. I just always had to have something to do with my hands. I got tired of the constant counting of the stiches so I switched to crocheting. Yes you count but it is in small patches not huge areas. I used to try to knit sweaters. I dont think i ever finished one. I tried crocheting a vest once but i never finished it. That thing about counting again. I was guessing at measurements instead of taking the time to measure and remeasure. My latest two project for crocheting were blankets, one for me and one for my daughter so I would have something to do for the year I took my husband three times a week for therapy on his foot. I tried to read while waiting but I couldnt concentrate at all. I found myself restless without something to do with my hands. I actually got the blankets large enough to use, barely before they got too big to carry around and i gave up on them. I also need to do something with my hands when watching tv or a movie at home. If not crocheting its card games. I even got really ambitious once. I was in a craft store and saw a needlepoint kit on sale and on inpulse I bought it. My grandmother did some wonderful needlepoint projects that are now family treasures. That was 2 years ago and it is about half finished.

I got in trouble with my ADD boss at work once while i was training. I was watching training videos and I was having trouble concentrating so I started playing card games. I was able to listen and really hear what they were saying but my boss took a dim view of this practice. I used to play card games at one job while I was on the phone waiting for technical help. and believe me I spend a lot of time on the phone with techs. I knew at the time that if I tried to do anything else while wating i would forget what i called them about. This was 12 to 15 years ago. I got diagnosed last summer.

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Steffie101 I hear your pain. My problem is car insurance. I have had my registration suspended so many times I have lost count because I didn’t pay my car insurance. I finally, about 3 years ago, had them take it out of my account automatically, only problem is right now I have no money and my insurance was not renewed so now I have to find the money to pay the two months before the state gets involved. I was so proud of myself too. 3 whole years without worrying about whether the cop behind me was going to check my tags.

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Bedelia, the misspelled word makes me feel right at home! How about you? I hope you enjoy this site as much as I do. Do you have any problems with weight control? This discussion is about the blog article on ADD and eating problems. If you have any questions you want to ask the doctor this is the place.

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A question for the Doctor. Why is it that everytime I need to concentrate on something I get hungry???? Last night I had just finished eating dinner and my daughter comes home and she had smashed her thumb in the car door. Crisis, instant hungry, took her to hospital, felt hungry the whole time there, came home still feeling hungry. Started to relax before going to bed and hunger went away without eating anything at all after dinner.

I worked at a job for 10 years, snacking all day long and reached 450 lbs before I left. I was hungry all day long. WHY?

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I started on Welbutrin (generic) back in August. Two hours after I took the fist dose my mind went quiet for the first time in my life. I was totally freaked out but in a good way. To be totally in the moment is a very, very rare thing for me. I stopped making mistakes, i was able to follow through on tasks, reports etc. It was heaven for about three weeks. Then i started making mistakes again, transposing numbers in an accounting job is not a good thing so the doctor upped the dosage. I was still having panic attacks and still having trouble sleeping. After another three weeks I started making mistakes again but the temp job I was on ended. Unfortunatly my body chemistry is such that 12 hour meds do not last 12 hours and I get used to any long term medication. A couple of weeks ago I stopped taking it because the side effects were worse than the small benifit I was getting. I have decided that I have had ADD all of my 58 years and I have lived with it with some success and now I can learn to deal without the meds. The meds are supposed to be training wheels anyway not a long term solution (with some exceptions i’m sure).

Decide to be happy! Being happy is the best medicine for any situation. And being happy is an inside job, no one else is going to do it for you! No one else can reach inside you and make you happy. They may do things that increase your happiness and make you feel good. I know. Before I discovered this truth, and it was very, very recently, I could be in a room full of people that were there just for me and still feel alone and unloved and unhappy. Now I can be in a room by myself and be happy and feel loved because I love myself. I have forgiven my self for trying to fit this star shaped peg in the round and square and trianglular holes. I have let go of the guilt and anger, you can’t change the past. I have started doing things that I had given up because of overwhelm and it has increased my happiness. I have the power to shape the rest of my life on my terms in spite of the ADD. Now if I could just find my car keys and my list….

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