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CarryParticipantSeptember 16, 2019 at 7:44 pmPost count: 119
you’re smart to ask questions. There’s a great video about this: https://totallyadd.com/add_video/are-adhd-medications-safe/
spoiler alert: Don’t worry! It’s been around for a long time, been tested a lot and no significant or severe consequences in relation to long term use. Check all the vids, they’ve helped me a lot, made me laugh a lot and they’re a festival of recognition!
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CarryParticipantJuly 5, 2013 at 10:23 amPost count: 119
I misread your original post about the medication. I assumed he was also on a stimulant. Those would bring the clarity (of the mind, not so much the moods), if they work out. But I read from your post that he is overwhelmed still. I’ve been using methylphenidate for almost two years (educated guess) and I’m still learning new stuff about the old me! I have no experience with antidepressants, so I don’t know whether they help to clear the mind.
Getting well informed is a good path. Even if he decides against a treatment or a med, at least try and make sure it’s decided with the right information at hand!
Keeping the faith is an excellent name and a well appreciated way to go about it! Supportive people by our sides make a huge difference!REPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantJuly 5, 2013 at 8:27 amPost count: 119
I look mighty fine in a burqa… please don’t ban them!
I’m not such a fan of Geelong I’m afraid.. I usually order Tja Sjieuw with chinese noodles. And that’s only because the nice lady would cry if I ordered a Pizza Quattro Stagioni from her every time.
It’s okay to be lost.. although I prefer the term temporarily displaced.
(I’m off for now… If I remain in this absurdist mood, I won’t be able to find the swimming pool where I have to take my son, for his swimming lessons)
CarryParticipantJuly 5, 2013 at 6:45 amPost count: 119
ehm… so we agree on the fact that Antarctica is where the South Pole is located?
and we agree that Alaska is quite a long way away from that same place. Mostly because Alaska is roughly situated more near the North Pole?
And Purgatory, Tasmania is closer to the South Pole than it is to the North Pole.
And we also agree that the Sahara is not the best place to breed penguins even though the idea to start there was absolutely and breathtakingly brilliant? (I mean, who’d look for a penguin farm there! 😮 )
And we agree Carrie is a funny canuck.
And I’d boldly state you’d support me in my protest against selling silly sausages at the price of an average King James bible.
So… If I am one of the insiders, it sure doesn’t feel that way… I’M COMPLETELY LOST! 😀
Hya Allan, I’m Carry, nice to meet you!REPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantJuly 5, 2013 at 2:16 amPost count: 119
I agree with you about discussions on the ‘authenticity of claims on the disorder’. That in itself has no meaning.
It’s very important to get the right kind of help. And we can have long discussions on what people should do to solve a particular problem. But the best advice for someone who hasn’t been diagnosed still is: Go see a specialist and find out if it really is AD(H)D.
So it’s not so much: They belong here, and they don’t.
But more so: We can help you (because there’s always someone here who recognizes), but we can’t replace professional help!
My frustrations came from my tendency to “jump on my bike and rescue others”. I don’t do that as much anymore. That made it into that initial rant! 🙂 Thanks for your view on things, you’ve had quite a lot to deal with!
Let’s agree on: Label the disorder, not the patient and get help!
CarryParticipantJuly 5, 2013 at 1:45 amPost count: 119
oh and I agree with Carrie. James is an awesome guy! I’ve had a glimps of what he’s been dealing with! 😉REPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantJuly 5, 2013 at 1:42 amPost count: 119
@Carrie You have grown so much! It’s a delight to see how well you’re doing!
I’ll apologize to the rest of you, while we’re here. I’m sorry for stealing Carrie from you, for this lengthy period of time. The truth is, we eloped to the South Pole to realise our biggest dream. We’re taking over the world. Our first steps were to start a breeding program for penguins. We initially started out in the Sahara desert, but for some odd reason our electricity bills went through the roof. Antarctica was a better location as it turned out. Penguins are happier there too… silly critters. Our project “Carries on living” has had a magnificent start.
So far so good. Can’t reveal the rest of our cunning plans… they’re super secret.
My point? Dunno. Sorry for stealing her. I will probably do so again.
The other CarryREPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantJuly 4, 2013 at 3:51 amPost count: 119
How much time has passed since he started the meds? He’s probably going through a lot of things. He’s experiencing a lot of ‘every day things’ as if he’s experiencing them for the first time. It can be quite overwhelming. He just may need some time before he gets a clear view on the old habits before he can take them on.
That’s how I’ve experienced it after starting my life of being ‘clear and present’.
I applaud you for trying to find answers and good luck! He’ll appreciate it. I know I did.REPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantJuly 4, 2013 at 3:42 amPost count: 119
Thanks Robbo for your comments on the quality of the discussion. I agree. Even though I may have looked like a bit of a hardliner at first, people have taken the discussion seriously and a lot of valid points have been made! I really appreciate that! A big thank you to all participants!REPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantDecember 24, 2012 at 12:37 pmPost count: 119
CarryParticipantDecember 24, 2012 at 12:27 pmPost count: 119
Just to make sure: My post wasn’t about being ‘legitimately ADD or not’! In response to a point Rick was making:
“Should they shutup for a year? Do nothing? Remain silent? Not be heard? Not share their story, or share what works for them? ”
No, ofcourse not. My plea is for clarification in peoples posts of the situation they are in. If you’re struggling to get diagnosed, say that instead of “I have it”. If you are convinced, but you can’t get the diagnose: “I’m sure I have it”. Because it helps to understand where you’re coming from.
But then again.. my post wasnt very clear either, was it? 🙂
CarryParticipantDecember 24, 2012 at 10:41 amPost count: 119
I agree, BuxomDiva.
But the categorization of people wasn’t my aim. What I (in a very clumsy way) was trying to promote, was being clear about where someone’s at in the diagnosis process, in describing their situation.
And my personal template of how to look at it had too much of a role in that rant. What works for me will not work for everybody. And the struggle people go through to get diagnosed are different from person to person, and from country to country.
I should have taken that into account. (among a few other things)
Thank you for your sincere, clear and friendly reply.REPORT ABUSE
CarryParticipantDecember 24, 2012 at 10:35 amPost count: 119
Thank you so much for your reply, Rick.
I really appreciate it and I hope I didn’t kick you or anyone else in the shins with my outbursts!
You’ve made a valid point about the form that I chose and the approach that I have to the subject of ‘the way to discuss’ the forum subjects. Ofcourse I accept your advice and your coaching. I’m actually moved by it and humbled. Don’t take that the wrong way.. I really feel I needed that!
I think my ‘rant’ is mostly about my quest for clarity, and I tend to get rigid and have an ‘all knowing’ stance about things. One of the things I’ve always deeply resented myself for, but that’s a different issue to deal with.
It is not my intention to categorize or discriminate people on the basis of ‘haves’ and ‘have-nots’, but I can see how my post can give you that impression. I apparentlty have this belief that people can provide themselves with the best possible starting point, by getting the facts together and start from there. I realize now, that it’s just not that easy for a lot of people and it made me realize that I am in a very fortunate situation, where I don’t (and didn’t) get stuck, thanks to the amazing people around me.
I also see how (especially in the ‘rant’ form) my statements can come across as being agressive! I can’t promise to never do this again.. because I am just not ready to accept that people honestly believe that voting for Mitt is the right thing to do.. I just can’t understand that! I have the same beef with religion… (this is only partially meant as a pun)
I really (and this is not a joke) have a hard time dealing with stuff like religion, politics and this inability clearly also affects my view on what people go through when they’re dealing with the struggle we’re dealing with here.
I apologize to anyone who felt that I have dismissed them or their struggle! That was never my intention, because I don’t dismiss you or your struggle.
Thank you, Rick!
CarryParticipantDecember 24, 2012 at 9:44 amPost count: 119
That’s quite a post, thisguy.
I want to reply with all the terrible cliches I can come up with.. I’ll try to avoid them!
Keep in mind that I am not judging you! I’ve never been in the dark place you’re describing, so I can only try to imagine what things are like for you. Just accept that I care, even though I don’t know you.
Life is hard for you and for your kid. But you’re still here. And you’re fighting and that’s something you’re showing your kid! Giving up is not something you want to teach your daughter, is it? That’s probably something you’re thinking of all the time. Don’t feel guilty about it…. It’s a good thing, you’re thinking!
So.. if this is rock bottom.. you’re going to have to accept the fact that it is. Maybe that will give you the opportunity to look around and look for steps up. You’re still very young. And you have a lot of years ahead of you. Want to see your girl write your name? Want to see your girl get detention for sticking up for herself and punch a class mate in the teeth? 😉 Find a way.. I think you can do it.. you should know for sure that you can!
Stick with us! We have loads and loads of terrible advice!! And some good advice too.. And don’t be scared… we’re not all as annoyingly happy as I am.
Good luck to you!!
CarryParticipantDecember 7, 2012 at 8:51 amPost count: 119
I registered and made it to the 100 beta testers. I hope, and I believe that the intentions are there, that the free accessible part of the site will improve as a result of having a paid part. Also, obviously, I’m eager to find out what the premium site will have to offer!REPORT ABUSE