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    You obviously haven’t stocked your first aid kit with emergency Twinkies.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twinkie

    kc5jck
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    in reply to: Having a Bad Day #126539 |

    So .  .  . about a week before Christmas, I walk in the house and see that my wife had put sticky hooks on the wall in the shape of a tree and hooked the tree lights on them.  “I see you got the tree decorated.”  What else can I say?

    kc5jck
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    @blackdog  I’ve been preoccupied the last six months or so with a variety of things, but have stopped by occasionally to see what is happening even if I don’t respond.  Tonight is the first time in a week or two I have checked in.  I saw your post about having a bad day.  Sorry I didn’t see it in time to be a first responder.

    It sounds like you’re doing better.  It’s not up to you, me, or anyone else to make the world a better place every day.  If you do, fine.  If not, you’re not a failure.  It’s better to look at the shiny things than to think about it.

    I presently am trying to sell my business, which may happen in the next few weeks.  Maybe then I will not be so delinquent.  I have also been trying to get more sleep.  8-9 hours works better than 5-6.  It leaves less time to worry about the things I am not getting done.  🙂

    kc5jck
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    in reply to: A means to the end? #126281 |

    @helpwithboyfriend  – “chasing other women, the getting away with the lying , the manipulation and control” doesn’t sound like ADHD to me.  He has other issues and you are right to get out of the relationship.

    Don’t go suffering any guilt trips because of your decision.  Get out.  The sooner the better.  Good luck.

    kc5jck
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    Uh . . . maybe I should give adderall another try .  .  .  and ask my wife how it’s working.

     

    kc5jck
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    A new study has found that eating breakfast, especially foods rich in protein, increases the levels of a brain chemical (Dopamine) associated with feelings of reward, which can help reduce food cravings and overeating later in the day.

    http://psychcentral.com/news/2014/10/18/breakfast-boosts-dopamine-helps-regulate-overeating-and-cravings/76300.html

    kc5jck
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    Talk to your doctor and get some meds.  You can try them, use them every day if you like,  or only when you need them.  There is really no need to do without when they can be of benefit.

     

    kc5jck
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    I recently, for reasons I’ll not go into now, broke down and signed up with Facebook.  This morning in my email was the not unexpected flood of crap generated from my decision.  After ten or fifteen minutes going through it, I decided that if I wasn’t careful, I would be wasting a lot of time with this Facebook thing so I quit and went back to playing Freecell.

    kc5jck
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    I read the book, and I too second guessed the diagnosis even though everything fit (the evidence is overwhelming) and was explained by ADHD.  Usually, when I thought back to how I was when I was pre and elementary school, I realize that, Yes the diagnosis is correct.

    Get someone like your husband to assess your performance on and off Adderall.  You may not be able to self assess accurately.  Also, there are differences in brand name and generics.  Stick with what works.  You might also keep track of other things such as diet, work related stress, hormones, sleep issues, anything that might affect the way the medicine is working for you.

    For some, taking meds is like lighting a fuse on a bottle rocket.  You want to make sure you are pointed in the right direction (ie “on task”) when it kicks in and not involved in some mindless distraction.

    Keep reading, learning, and asking questions about ADHD.  Ultimately, you are in charge of your ADHD treatment and will have to determine which combination of meds, coping skills, life choices, etc. work best for you.

    kc5jck
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    If you’re looking for a way to waste some time today, check out:

    http://www.badideatshirts.com/?gclid=CNLc-4HlrsECFUKCMgodeVEALw

    kc5jck
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    in reply to: Parenting & ADD #126103 |

    My son was diagnosed several years ago at age 21 or so with ADHD.  After reading about ADHD, I got diagnosed the next year.  My wife apparently does not have ADHD and although I see a lot of ADHD behavior in her, I think it can be explained otherwise.

    For years, she has said that there was something wrong with the kid, (like I’m supposed to talk to him and fix the problem) and I’m, of course, like “He seems normal to me.”  She seems to have no idea what ADHD is and has no desire to learn.

    I haven’t been able to fix me, sure don’t see how I could fix him, and mostly what I get from her is that “you did that on purpose” and “he needs to try harder.”

    It’s hard to not feel that she doesn’t care.

    Do you see this a lot?

    kc5jck
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    Welcome @jill223.

    I would guess from the tone of your post that you have been more or less recently diagnosed.  Much of what you say will resonate with the membership here.  We all have messy houses, avoid simple boring tasks, hyperfocus on anything interesting, usually the more unimportant, the more intent the hyperfocus.  We all waste time and feel bad about it, but often not so much so that we make the effort to be more productive.  We understand where you are coming from.  Is this a first for you?  Being understood.

    There are a lot of good people on the site with a lot of good advice.  Take time to read through the forums.  Hopefully you will find a lot to relate to and feel like this is the place where you belong.

    One thing that can help with completing simple boring tasks is to write down the two or three steps needed to complete it.  When you get up from wasting time on the computer to go pee, take the list with you and do the next thing on the list before getting back to wasting time.  Checking things off the list is really inspiring and gives a real boost to self esteem.  So go make your list and have a brew to help get things started.  😉

     

     

    kc5jck
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    Welcome @jill223.

    I would guess from the tone of your post that you have been more or less recently diagnosed.  Much of what you say will resonate with the membership here.  We all have messy houses, avoid simple boring tasks, hyperfocus on anything interesting, usually the more unimportant, the more intent the hyperfocus.  We all waste time and feel bad about it, but often not so much so that we make the effort to be more productive.  We understand where you are coming from.  Is this a first for you?  Being understood.

    There are a lot of good people on the site with a lot of good advice.  Take time to read through the forums.  Hopefully you will find a lot to relate to and feel like this is the place where you belong.

    One thing that can help with completing simple boring tasks is to write down the two or three steps needed to complete it.  When you get up from wasting time on the computer to go pee, take the list with you and do the next thing on the list before getting back to wasting time.  Checking things off the list is really inspiring and gives a real boost to self esteem.  So go make your list and have a brew to help get things started.  😉

     

     

    kc5jck
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    After watching ADD…And Loving It? several times, I noticed that they not only try to educate the viewer about ADHD, but Patrick and Rick exhibit the behaviors, and the editing of the film is such that presents to the viewer how the world seems to one with ADHD, with short scenes that move rapidly from one to the next .  .  .  and back.

    Did anyone else notice Mike Meyers in one of the shots?

    kc5jck
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    Leave it out.  Later if there is some aspect you wish for him to know you can say something like:

    I need to tell you that I am not lazy, crazy, or stupid, I have been diagnosed with ADHD.  (Not to be confused with STD.)  If you’re like the 96% of the people that aren’t, you probably don’t have a clue of what ADHD is.  I don’t want you to say “I’m sorry”, “it’s OK”, or “everyone is handicapped it’s just that some handicaps are more obvious than others.”   I want you to know that I value our relationship and I want you to understand that . . . (then explain why you’re telling him.  Such as “although it looks like I’m following an imaginary bat around the room, I really am paying attention to what you are saying.” )

    His response will let you know if you should invest any more of your time in him.

     

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