[That Guy with ADHD]

Thanks diamondr,

I could probably use one myself.

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[That Guy with ADHD]

When I first thought I might have it I started here at TotallyADD.com.  I read through the blogs and watched the videos and everything resonated with me.  Like you, I have issues with anxiety and depression and also have similar issues with making simple mistakes.  If you find yourself saying “I do that” while reading these entries you could have it.  I never realized just how many traits are related to ADD and I seem to have most of them.  Don’t dispair though.  ADD is not a life sentance.

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[That Guy with ADHD]

I’m still pretty new to the ADD scene and I haven’t heard of an “Accountability Buddy”.  Can you explain what one is/does?

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Hopefully you have your answer by now and can post on your progress.  Although  I am just starting out on my ADD journey I feel that I need to do it “by the book” starting with my doctor and psychologist to treat my depression and anxiety.  We have also discussed my ADD and are working on getting an official diagnosis.  I find the “do it yourself” route rather daunting as I have no idea where to even begin.  I have read through articles and blogs and even a book and some videos but I can’t pick just one so I do none.  I have looked at eating protiens for breakfast and reducing refined sugars.  I am also trying to work on my sleep habits even though falling asleep never was a problem but I am so restless in bed my wife and I sleep apart.  As for medication I hope to be on some ADD meds soon.  I hope that if I can get my brain to settle down I will be able to focus better and less inclined to make impulsive decisions that end up creating hurt and hard feelings.

Regards

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I’ve been there too.  I misplaced things all the time.

It seems as if my brain has already put my keys on the hook before actually physically doing it.  As such it doesn’t really care where it actually puts them.  It recalls the fake memory of the hook and completely forgets the actual physical act of putting them on the kitchen counter.  When the panic sets in my memory recall gets even worse.

Richard

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[That Guy with ADHD]

As much as I have tried to create a routine for storing my keys, wallet, glasses, etc. I still seem to amaze myself with the number of subconsious ways my brain can break from a tried and true method like a carabiner or key hook.  I used to keep my carabiner on my right front belt loop for easy access but from time to time I find it on my left loop after panicking that I had lost them.  I would search every pocket of every piece of clothing I wore for the past week only to find it out in the open.  Can the brain selectively deny images it sees or other senses like touch or sound?

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My sleep is interupted by noises, a full bladder, aches, and dreams.  I find that in most of my dreams I have the ability to manipulate them simply by thinking “that’s dumb, I should have done this instead”  and it happens.  It’s almost as it I’m daydreaming and not fully asleep.

I also toss and turn so much I can’t sleep with my wife anymore.  At the age of 53 I find it that the aches and pains of arthritis has made it even more difficult to find a comfortable sleeping position.

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[That Guy with ADHD]

Now if the guy started playing pingpong and then adjusted the leg on the table and then saw a stray twig and trimmed the whole hedge, and then…..  That would be me 😀

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I have to say that I admire your drive to read “Because” it is difficult.  For me I have only read a handful of books for pleasure.  I have the same problems as you regarding reading and comprehension.  Normally I can only read things for about 15 minutes unless I find the right book in which case I can hyper focus on it.  I first noticed that while reading “Mrs Frisby and the Rats of Nimh” as a kid.  I couldn’t put it down.  And I also enjoyed the “Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” and “Hamish X” books.  I do tend to enjoy reading authors who have a quirky sense of homour.

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[That Guy with ADHD]

So Morrisfluffytail,

How are things going?  Was your self CBT experiment a success?  Other than “The gift of adult ADD” were there any other resources you used and can recommend?

Richard

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[That Guy with ADHD]

I’m not sure why noone has responded to you so I will.  I think that if you believe you have the symptoms ask your doctor for help.  If they don’t help see a psychologist.  The material on TotallyADD is a good start too.  It’s good to go in to a meeting with your doctor armed with some idea of what the disorder is and the treatment options.

Best wishes

Richard

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[That Guy with ADHD]

There are so many voices on this site all singing in perfect harmony.  I’ve never felt so in tune with anyone before I came here.  I too have lost all self esteem yet dream of being an architect, carpenter, world traveler, author, computer programmer, musician,  entrepreneur… I have kits, instruments, test equipment, books, uTube videos, etc all prepared but never get around to doing much with them.  Three years ago it was a travel trailer restoration, two years ago a skin-on-frame kayak, and last year a shipping container home.  This year it’s a tiny house on wheels (THOW).  I can’t remember where I put my keys, my passwords, medical appointments.  I make stupid mistakes all the time.  I get anxious all the time and am currently depressed.  I watched ADD and loving it three times before I was able to get through it all (recommended viewing btw).  My wife thinks I need a mother because she has to remind me to do so many things.  I have a “to do” list a mile long and getting longer by the second.  My mind races and I can’t keep focused on anything for very long.  It’s always 3 steps ahead of my body yet I can focus long enough to spill my guts in a post.  I can’t read for more than 15 minutes and often find myself having to go back and reread it because I didn’t comprehend it at all.  Does any of this sound familiar?  I feel something in every page I read on this site.  You are all my friends, even though I may forget that I already accepted your friend request and send you another.

Good luck in your journey of discovery and healing

Richard

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Much like Kollasch40 I am in a particularly troubling point in my relationship with my wife of 21 years.  She is sick of being my “Mother”, having to remind me to do things all the time and feeling rejected when I don’t do things she asks me to do (or doing things she asks me not to).  I, too, have been feeling angry about her nagging and have been lashing out lately.  My depression and anxiety have hit an all time high.  Have I reached the “Tipping Point”?  It’s not the first time I have read comments like these about ADDers.  Klmillscats has some good suggestions.  I think that I have to get formally diagnosed so that I can get proper treatment/meds.  I think that if I can get my ADD symptoms in check things will get better for us.  My wife deserves so much better from me.  Although we have brought up devorce neither of us truely want that.  If I did it would be to let her go so she could persue a better life somewhere else.  It’s hard to say but there have been many times when I have thought to end it so she could be happy again.

Thanks to those who have and will post to this tread.  I wish you all the best.

 

Richard

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