[Tiddler]

Okay, that helped me avoid the pile of washing up for an hour! Thanks for that!

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This sums it up for me:

Dr. Jain wanted clarity. He was initially distressed that Dr. Blouin appeared to be refusing to produce testing that would have provided more clarity, until he found out that it was Mr. Lyle’s lawyer who had called a halt to the additional testing – not Dr. Blouin…Dr. Jain’s concern is that an early diagnosis has merely been carried forward to adulthood, without the proper adult evaluation having been made.

I disagree that Dr J is fighting against someone with ADHD. Instead, he’s fighting against a situation that could be causing harm to a person with some symptoms of a problem that haven’t been looked into properly because a lawyer has stepped in to prevent further testing taking place.

Number 35 was also important:

None of those treating or diagnosing Mr. Lyle followed the DSM 4 categories of diagnosis recognized as being authoritative. Everyone just assumed that an earlier A.D.H.D. diagnosis was correct. They assumed that because of his conduct, he must have A.D.H.D. …To definitively diagnose A.D.H.D. one must apply the DSM 4 criteria. Dr. Blouin did not do this. As a result, there could be any number of other diagnoses that are more appropriate.

The original adult diagnosis was not really a diagnosis. It sounds like it was assumption based due to conduct. What if there’s another issue going on that is not being resolved because he’s being treated for the wrong thing?

And if there are incorrect assumptions being made, I want doctors to be able to stand up and question them. I know from personal experience how damaging incorrect diagnoses can be and how medical staff can close ranks and refuse to allow patients to challenge problems. (For example, crucial records ‘disappearing’ that drag out medical negligence cases.) So I’m heartened by this example of sensible questions being asked by another doctor to ensure that appropriate care is given to patients and to ensure that lawyers don’t get to make medical decisions.

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My husband has added that there’s no point in me worrying that I’m going to do something that daft just because I dreamt it – unless I’m also worried that he’s going to morph into a sonic the hedgehog character and join a platform game, since that’s what he was dreaming about last night!

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Thanks, trashman. I think maybe counselling would help me, because at the moment I think I’ve been controlling myself by keeping everything wound up in an anxiety state and if I continue to stay free of that I’m not sure who I’ll be. I’m okay with that I think, as long as I don’t start, as you say, letting my thoughts control me.

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Thanks, toofat. That’s exactly what I’m hoping for.

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My husband told me that if the doc didn’t diagnose ADHD he’d want us to look for a second opinion. He’s as convinced as I am. Because of other drugs I have to take, I’d be reluctant to self medicate in the meantime in case there are any problems.

I told him I was worried he’d just say that I was lazy with a bad attitude to work but he thought it was ridiculous that anyone would think that. Everyone thought that when I was a child though!

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Thanks both. I already told him about the dream. He thought it was funny!

We’re really rock solid and have no problems in that area. I really think it’s about worrying that my impulsive behaviour will mess things up. I’m trying to let go of the anxiety about it and it’s having a really positive effect on my life but I’m also making more silly mistakes as a result. I guess it was a dream about the most stupid mistake I could make and how much it would damage my life – even though it’s not something I want to do, if that makes sense.

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I dreamt I cheated on my husband. I know it’s about impulse and learning to control it and I’ve been just not worrying about being impulsive/scatty/disorganised/chaotic etc etc and finding out what it’s like to just be me without holding it all in all the time.

But that’s not even something I want to do so I don’t know what that was about. It was a pretty miserable dream with a lot of people really mad at me.

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Thanks! The doc hasn’t asked to speak to my husband, which is a shame because he’d be able to confirm it all, and remember stuff if I go blank.

I don’t think I tap my feet, but I do destroy things that I’m holding! Beer mats in pubs get shredded while I’m talking, pens get chewed to bits, labels get pulled off bottles. And when I worked in an office, I used to peel the backing off the sponge mats on the desks.

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Yes it worked. You did it!

I misplace my car too. I bought a bright yellow one to help with the finding!

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I think that’s a genius description and I totally relate to it.

My only gripe is that I was just about to leave the site to do something else that I thought was really important and now I’ve read it I have no clue what I wanted to do a couple of minutes ago!

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My husband wanted to chip in. He says that HIS anxiety levels shoot up when I’m like that! lol

Also, he said that I do similar even when there isn’t a deadline approaching – I just THINK there is. It’s more of an impulse issue though than anything else.

For example, we were on our way to the beach yesterday. It’s a 2 hour drive. We pulled in for petrol and he said the second I turned off the engine I spotted the car wash and insisted that we HAD to get the car washed before we set off. I haven’t washed the car in about 18 months, maybe longer. It’s pretty dirty, I admit. But when we were trying to have a family day out? Really? It HAD to get washed there and then? (And we had set off pretty late because I couldn’t get it together sooner.)

Fortunately, now he realises what’s going on when I do stuff like this, he can just be really relaxed about it and help me sort out my priorities.

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Re Bill’s post on hyperfocus and how it happens, I’ll try to be precise about what I experience.

If, for example, I want to clean up because we’re having guests, I fret about it for a couple of days then in the morning of the day they’re visiting I wake up feeling energized and determined to ‘get stuff sorted’. I make a start – maybe by dusting in one room. Once this job is all or partly done, I usually spot something else I want/feel I need to do and I forget about the dusting, leaving the duster wherever I happen to drop it. Eventually I’ll remember I was supposed to be cleaning and I’ll get back to it, only to be distracted or give up again shortly after. This goes on all day.

Eventually get a sort of jolt – of mini panic I think – as I realise I only have X minutes to ‘get it done’. I feel like there’s a rush of energy and enthusiasm that comes from somewhere in my body and I begin to whirl round making it happen. Sometimes I get quite frantic and start making unreasonable demands of my husband – take out the bins, put the laundry in the machine, what do you mean you haven’t done it yet?!

When this happens, I truly feel like I’m watching the rest of the world as it happens in slow motion. That’s the only way I can describe it. Everyone else looks like they’re in a different time dimension and I’m whirring faster and faster, unable to slow down even if I wanted to – but in that moment I usually don’t want to. It’s almost painful to see how slowly everything else is going while I’m like this. My husband says he doesn’t think I’m actually moving any faster than him, but he does think my anxiety levels go up.

I feel good though, and ‘purposeful’ and I get a real kick out of it, whether it’s housework or an essay or a work deadline. It has to be fast approaching – far too fast approaching or this just doesn’t happen.

This video explains it better than I can – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wF1YRE8ff1g

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Aw, that was totally worth the wait. How gorgeous was that! Thanks for posting the link!

I love being here too, lakelly. It’s an odd and very pleasant thing to find so many people who understand!

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I think you’re right that everyone has an internal monologue – but in my case it just never shuts up and the thoughts bounce around so fast that I rarely follow a thought to its conclusion without having other strands jumping in at the same time.

The stuff I read said I should look out for the pause between these thoughts and that’s the bit I don’t seem to have. There is NO pause. Ever.

Is this an ADHD thing?

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