Let’s be honest. Since ADHD is still not well understood by neuroscience, what you and I ‘know’ about ADHD probably contains some erroneous assumptions, outdated clichés, and a few gaps. Possibly some major gaps.
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I am going to suggest that there are some potential benefits to having ADHD. Symptoms that can be impairing in some situations can work for me in other situations. However, before we dive into this…A Caveat. A Clarification. A Disclaimer.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is not a gift.
Many adults who have ADHD, myself included, don’t feel we worry too much or are highly sensitive, anxious, moody, mercurial, easily upset, or quick to anger. We don’t feel that our emotions are a problem.
But talk to our friends and family. Hear what they say. (Awkward clearing of throat.)
“Everyone is ADHD. It’s the internet and smart phones.”
“These days everyone is ADD.”
“Yeah, everyone thinks they have it.”
Uh… No! Sorry, friend, but the whole world is NOT suddenly suffering from Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.
Mastering ADHD challenges is an ongoing project. Always improving. Never perfect. My success requires an arsenal of mutually supporting tools. However when one strategy stopped working well for me, I would ‘try harder.’ And we know how that works…
Something has been bothering me for a while. Stewing away.
And I think the seasonal question of “Have you been naughty or nice?” has brought it to the fore.
It’s something I was asked a long while ago.
“How do I tell what’s ADHD, and what’s simply bad behavior?”
Is it just me, or are more and more people confusing their beliefs with facts. Perhaps people have always mistaken their opinions for the truth. I don’t know.
What I do know, for sure, is the universal challenge you face after getting an ADHD diagnosis is whether or not you should tell anyone about it. Who you should take into your confidence? Who probably doesn’t need to know? And who definitely should never find out?
Ah, holiday traditions. Every year, the familiar customs, gatherings, and celebrations.
Every year, seeing family… the cousin who always breaks something valuable. The uncle who tells everyone what’s wrong with this country. The sister-in-law who knows ADHD is crap and you just need to try harder.