[veronica]

clive

I was thinking about my relationships , and what i came up with is i was looking for a relationship that would help me make up for my lack of attention to detail .

As we know that does not work .

Anybody else have any ideas ?????

dude, i have this…. and now he’s tired of having to make up for lack of attention to detail. he is also tired of making up for uncompleted tasks that i start. it weighs down on peeps eventually.

DogFather

Have any of you ever asked your “significant other” a question, and then three minutes later have to ask the same question again because you weren’t paying attention?

The second time around when you hear the answer, combined with the annoyed tone in their voice you realize what you’ve just done.

yes! in fact i do this fairly often. and again, my hubby is tired of having to repeat himself and having to remind me of the conversation we’d already had in regards to whatever question i asked.

the other day he just gave me a look and i knew it, just by the look, that’d i’d already asked him that. so, i said, “i already asked you that, huh?!” he shook his head yes, and waited for me to go through my memory bank to remember the time and place we were at while already discussing it… sure enough the answer was there. so, he said he’s just going to give me that look from now on, if it’s something we’ve already discussed. this should be fun.

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Dr. J.

Adderall IR is not available in Canada only Adderall XR incidently.

I am loving the comments people are making to help you Veronica and I am waiting to hear how your story turns out.

Might want to use some type of rating scale to determine medication effect and side effect profiling, by the way, rather than a subjective feeling because after time we can’t remember baseline.

Here is a typical side effect scale:

http://www.caddra.ca/cms4/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=98&Itemid=143&lang=en

oh man! thank you, Dr. J!! this is totally going to be helpful when i go see my doc next month for my follow-up appt.

so far, he decided to place me back on XR twice a day. so, we’ll see how that goes. he’s super concerned about my weight, so he has instructed me to get “everyone on board” with the fact that if i lose any more i’ll disappear. hahahaha. now i have the guys at work reminding me to eat and hubby and the kids remind me at home. so far, so good.

as far as the therapist. she’s nice. and helpful in getting what is ADHD, ENFP, and just a daunting of mundane tasks that everyone goes through. my next 2 goals are 1)controlling my impulsivity with money and 2) communicating and/strategizing a better way to approach me on things i’ve totally dropped the ball on (with regards to people outside of work). my hubby and family suffer when they feel they can’t approach me on things, b/c i become too sensitive. any ideas on that? perhaps i should start another thread in the forums for it.

any hoots, that’s my update so far. thanks everyone for the words of encouragement.

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[veronica]

there are some pretty good people on there giving their two cents to the a55h*ol3 responses. it’s difficult for those who have not ever had to deal with this on a daily basis to understand the full impact ADD/ADHD has on a person and their surroundings. i haven’t read the article, yet. i jumped to the comments.

thanks for posting lvriniel!

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Rick

One of the key messages is that you have to be really direct with your communication. You have to make sure you’re not just vague, “Time to get ready for bed.” Several of the experts talk about focusing on positives, looking for positives to focus on and praise, and ideally making requests that can be done in the next 5 to 10 seconds. So rather than, “Clean up the rec-room” you would say, “Can you put away all the red blocks?” They do that very quickly. “Great. Good work. Now how about the blue blocks?” And so on. The child gets a dozen positive comments for cleaning up the room. (We ADDers love positive feedback and acknowledgement)

Break it down into short actions, and praise each one that’s accomplished. Since we actually do clean up an entire room one bit at a time, it makes sense to break it down for an ADHD kid into quick things. (Heck, I’m 57 and I break everything down into short chunks)

these are great tips! another thing that i totally notice about myself and my kids is that we work WAY better if you give us a definite deadline to do something. i tell my daughter that she has to be done with homework in so many minutes. i show her the clock and tell her that when it says… blah blah blah… the homework will go into her homework folder, whether she’s finished or not… and if it’s not finished she will have to explain to her teacher why she didn’t get it done. i thought it wouldn’t work, but she sure gets it done. i feel like it makes her accountable for her work that needs to be completed in a timely manner. plus, it helps me remember that she’s doing homework and she needs to get it done, so i’m not focusing on other things while she needs help with it.

and once she’s done with the homework… it’s PLAY time!! she loves being able to goof off afterward.

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[veronica]

here you go bud, so you don’t feel odd….

I SUGGEST GOING TO CNET.COM. THEY HAVE GREAT VID REVIEWS ON ALL SORTS OF ELECTRONICS.

ANOTHER THING THAT I REALLY DO ENJOY ABOUT THE BB IS THAT I CAN (LIKE LARYNX SAID) JUST PLUG IN MY PHONE TO MY PC AND JUST TOGGLE FILES B/W THE TWO. I HAVE YET TO TRY TO SYNC CONTACTS THAT WAY, BUT I’M SURE IT’S JUST AS EASY, IF I EVER DECIDED TO DO SO.

ok, enough of the cap locks. hahahaha, it’s confusing me. hee hee i’m sure you can look into all sorts of features on the devices individual sites. i mean go to blackberry.com or iplam.com, or whatever and look through the site. the forums. get a feel for what people like and don’t like about them. another thing is to do on sites that allow purchasers to review the items. and read the reviews. sometimes someone may post something that you would be concerned about, or a feature that you would have not even thought about being useful on your device. personally i like the BB, b/c it’s just easy (since it’s the most like my computer). i can locate files as quickly as i can on my PC.

anyhoots, good luck in your decision. larynxa had a great point on the listing of pros and cons. write down what features you would DEFINITELY like to have and start checking off which devices have those. that’s where i’d start at least.

~v

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[veronica]

ya know they say that fiber and lots of water in your make for shorter bathroom breaks. hahahaha

just teasin’. thanks for the answer on my other post. hubby and i have come along way in the last 2 months. *proud*

be well, dr.j!

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[veronica]

i’m a nail biter… oooh! bubble pop!…. and am currently trying…. found some bubble pop here at work!…. to stop biting my nails.

hee hee

aotp… i totally bite my nails, pop pimples, pick at my kids, and my hubby. i just thought it may be a trait from a past life or something. hahahaha. don’t fret. i know people without add/adhd that do these habits, too.

i don’t if that was useful info, but i shared anyway.

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larynxa

The gesture has its origins in the Battle of Agincourt, when the French soldiers bragged that not only would they defeat the English soldiers (most of whom were armed with longbows), but they’d cut off the archers’ shooting fingers (the index & middle fingers) as trophies. Though the English were outnumbered, they managed to soundly defeat the French, and taunted them by raising their index & middle fingers at them, just to rub it in. “Look! We still have our fingers!”

you are the second person i have heard this from. i dated this guy once. he is from south africa and moved to the states for school. he has adhd, too! huh! *sorry, just had a brainfart* hahahahaha…. moving on. he told me this story, too. i always thought he was full of it when he would tell me these, but it turns out he wasn’t! hahahahaa. sorry, “D”, if you ever read this… i still think you’re cool, bro! hahahaha

ya know, i’m sure there is a market for differences in rim-shots and rude gestures. maybe there’s a market for shirts and such that can be made. grrrrl, i believe you should start making funny logos to print. screen printed shirts are all the rage! hee hee

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allovertheplace

Veronica- you sound way too organized! Can you do a training workshop on BB for those of us who are technology impaired? ;o)

(I’m only half joking).

there is nothing in the world i would like to do more than train people with add/adhd on how to use their BB to benefit them.

i can tell you that if you have one and have a bunch of questions on how to use features…. crackberry.com/forums is wonderful place to start. i have learned so much about the use of this phone from here.

and on another note… computers have not always been a huge deal for me. meaning that they aren’t something i’ve looked into learning about to know how they work, but they are to my hubby. so, for me this was a big deal… to learn more about the phone’s capabilities without his help. i rarely ask him anymore how to use a feature on the phone and it feels so nice and empowering. squee!

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shadow

do people with adhd benefit from a blackberry because its like a minicomputer on your phone i do not know but i was toying with it becasue if i am going to get a new computer laptop i do not want to lug around the laptop everytime

ok, so from my perspective… i LOVE LOVE LOVE my blackberry (i have the storm). i think this is the first time i’ve been so patient with any phone i’ve ever had, only b/c it’s so damn useful. it helps me schedule things out. i receive emails on it and automatically add things to “tasks” or the calendar once i receive the emails (sooooo helpful). i add reminders to each and it bugs me till they are done.

you can sync your calendar from your desktop (and even google calendar), so you just type what you need where you’re at and it syncs it.

then the option for me to place in an item on the calendar to place a reminder and SEND IT TO MY HUBBY, is fabulous!! it keeps me accountable and keeps him informed.

at first i was a little weary, b/c i’m so used to having things out in front of me on paper. but after a while you get over it. i kept losing the papers. now i have written memos, voice recordings, lists of things to buy or look up later. the many tools it has on it really help me stay on top of things as a mom and a person in general. in fact, if i misplace my phone (as i am running after the kids) it’s the first thing i notice. hee hee

you can bluetooth to your computer (if it has that option), or just plug in and copy files that you’ve written to it. seriously it’s that easy.

i even have my budget uploaded to my phone, so that i can view whenever i need to make a last minute purchase and need to see if i can cover it or not.

seriously i don’t know how i ever did it before having this tool. i highly recommend it.

**forgot to add** i also have sounds set up for each individual person calling. so i know who it is and whether i need to answer right away or not (like if it’s work)… and for my emails, too. work emails have a burping sound. hee hee makes me laugh every time. personal emails have homer simpson. those little features come in handy. hell, even my kids know when it’s dad calling and that they have permission to answer. **ok, i’m done**

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[veronica]

Larynxa:

Or, for those in England—boom-boom! Yes, rim-shots differ by country. So do rude gestures. !

what?! you mean to tell me the “finger” isn’t universal? bummer.

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[veronica]

cuz you’re allovertheplace remember?

bah-doom boom, pish! tee hee

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[veronica]

YES!

this happens to me a good amount of the time. and i too write a list or an outline of what topics i need to cover in order to stay focused and on track. i actually do really well when involved in trainings or meeting where there is an outline to be covered.

in fact i have to present the board of my kids’ school this coming month and am sitting here scrambling for a steady outline and be able to present the back-up information in an efficient manner (as i will only have 15 minutes to cover at least 5 fairly serious topics). the only thing that i tend to not fumble (where you may lack from time to time) is being able to improve my “speeches”. i was in debate when in high school and they taught us lil’ tricks so that we could get our points across without a hitch. these are the ones that really stuck with me:

1)write down main topics on an index card

2)if you feel as though you are fumbling for words…. break for water (even a small window of 30 seconds, makes you recheck your brain to stay on point)

3)and try to keep things as simple as possible (this was a big key for me, b/c a lot of the times i would try to get all fancy with verbiage and i’d totally lose my place, or thought. all b/c i was so focused on trying to find another word to say tempting, or whatever).

it’s funny that you went back and told your co-workers what happened. i usually do the same if i feel that i could have performed better than i had. but i’ve been trying to stop that, b/c my hubby says i need to stop making excuses… even when i tell him they aren’t excuses, i’m just explaining where i’m coming from- he still says they are excuses. i digress, this is one of my big issues i’m trying to overcome

any hoots, i don’t know if i answered your question or not. but that’s my take at least.

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[veronica]

i loved the side effect of having the inability to “use your arms”.

thanks for sharing. too funny!

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[veronica]

i went to your blog. found tons of info and other blogs to read. thanks…. you’ve added to the ever so growing number of sites that i can waste my time away with at work. *grin*

i’ll read through and comment when i get a chance. thanks for sharing.

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