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Carrie, I guess I worded it funny. What I mean is no one who is , well actually forget calling anyone normal. We are normal, we just think different
Anyway, lets say non-ADD people instead.Generally speaking these people may recognize that what they have done isn’t the most efficient let’s say, let alone something mean, inconsiderate or what have you, yet don’t feel compelled to seek a way to explain it. We on the other hand when we find out it’s ADD, seem to be obsessed with finding an explanation and vindication and wanting everyone to else to know too. I think if that’s the motivation for explaining it to others it may be rather un-necessarily draining of our energy resources.
I think it’s a great awakening but now that I know, like you, I also still find myself repeating less than efficient behavior. I see what you mean with
“…they have the willpower to do so, or can sit down see point A and B and the steps in between and understand but not do them!”
Puzzling huh?
But maybe it goes to show us that part of changing any behavior involves changing the perception we have of our abilities in the first place. I would love to have a dollar for every time I saw or heard of someone who is doing something ( ie something lucrative) when quite frankly they really don’t have the proper training or authority ( as in knowledge) to be doing whatever it is. Confidence is everything and It really is a little red-engine world sometimes!
REPORT ABUSEI agree with Curlymoe115 it must depend on how you answer the questions on a given day according to your mood. Also the questions are sort of strange at times and may be interpreted differently.
I took it on the Kiersey site and got the same result 3 times. Then two different times from another site and got different results. I would say each one reflected an element of my personality so if I put all of them together I guess I get a composite. On the other hand, my daughter took it and I would say it was quite spot on. Just goes to show self-diagnosis is a dangerous thing. But it is fun to read as provides food for thought
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jlmccarthy
Well as long as you’re not the PTA secretary probably no big deal
Maybe next time admit to zoning out for a moment
I hope for your sake they chose you because your talents made you the ideal candidate not because it’s a miserable assignment. My problem is I often end up agreeing to huge projects on the spur of the moment as a result of my enthusiasm and underestimation of the time required. The fact that you’re good at delegating and planning is a good thing if you are the head of the committee/project. If you start your first meeting off assigning tasks to those most suited to them and you retaining control over the tasks you are good at then you’re project will probably be well executed. Here is an opportunity for a strength based collaboration.The key is people get the jobs that enthuse them, something most of us with ADD are all to familiar with
.However, there’s delegating and then there’s ‘s shirking responsibility. I have worked with people who “delegate” because they’re lazy and don’t want to do anything and burn everyone else out as a result. And I’ve worked with others who play helpless and suck people into helping them and then say they delegated the task. Both types are incredibly annoying.
REPORT ABUSECarrie,
Except for one of my kids, none of my family thinks it’s “real” either. This includes my husband, who of all people you’d think I should be able to tell. He prefers to stick his head in the sand ( I think those are actually his own words) about stuff like this. When I was still debating medication I decided I’d better bring it up but the resulting discussion left me deciding I was just going to go and do what I have to do and forget about discussing it again. He said the same stuff everyone else does – we all have it etc etc. ( well actually I think he does have it but that’s another story!)
I never even got to telling him about medication. So far it’s been about 4-5 months and quite frankly, and surprisingly, so far so good. I feel good, still getting a handle on my organization which is my biggest hurdle, but things are improving. I guess no one’s the wiser
SO my point? ( I had to say that for my own benefit to make sure I don’t ramble!) It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Just do what you have to do to make yourself happy.
REPORT ABUSEShutterbug55,
Not sure you can do this at work, but have you considered setting a timer for say 10-15 minutes? When it rings it will help you re-focus on the task you’re supposedly doing. Probably not a great idea in a meeting though:-) But perhaps a vibrating cell phone in your pocket can do the trick?
If there’s something really boring I’ll do that. It keeps me focused on completion since I’m kind of competitive and don’t want the timer to beat me
REPORT ABUSE No time for zoning that way! It depends on the task but my usual minimum time is 20 minutes. I figure you can almost do anything for 20 minutes. If I really feel un-motivated then I set it for 10 and that usually helps me get into doing the task. But in case I wander in my mind or otherwise -switching to unrelated tasks is a form of zoning out – then the timer ringing is a great way to bring me back on track.
Library Books – First of all I knew since I was a kid that the library was not a place I should get books from. I was about 7 when my mother and I joined the local library. I still have the book over 40 years later
I should have bought stock in the major book chains years ago but that’s another story. However, one of my daughters insisted we should join the public library about 2 years ago so, taking in to account the amount of money spent on a weekly basis at the book store, I agreed. She’s really good at returning hers, I on the other hand can’t go back.
I took out 5 hardcover books on a subject I’m researching. Kept renewing, then eventually got to the point where they start to mail you the slips that you owe them a fortune to pay for the book because you must be a normal person and were robbed so can’t return them.
Good intentions being what they always are, the books were in a cloth shopping bag near the front door so I could return them the “next time” I went out. I drive by the place once a day anyway… Well many more months went by.
Fast Forward to last summer’s vacation time and the family is frantically rushing around to get ready on time to get a taxi to the airport. At the last minute I see the bag and assume my husband ( who’s in the taxi) has forgotten his reading bag. Not that he really has a reading bag, but anyway.
So we get to the airport and in the usual mayhem he keeps refusing the bag every time I try to give it to him – “it’s not mine.” I keep repeating “yes it is” and start to get rather annoyed that I have to carry it. Anyway, because we’re so busy checking in, going through security etc. this gets unresolved until we are at the gate waiting to board.
I adamantly insist he carry his own reading bag. He says “I am” and holds up a plastic bag with mags etc. I of course say ” then why did you bring this one that you forgot in the hall?” He looks at me like I’m crazy. I open the bag and of course burst out laughing when I see what it is. He thinks it’s not so funny and still won’t carry them.
The books are now somewhere in Europe.
REPORT ABUSEYes our thinking is why we run circles around those linear folks
Only having just written that not sure it makes as much sense as when I first thought it!I like the idea of sending all that extra stuff we have into outer space njadd
Sorry just had to unscramble my thinking. Anyone else get that need to sort of dump thoughts?
It’s occurring to me that perhaps following the David Allen Getting Things Done ( GTD) method and dumping all of your thoughts into what he calls the inbox – basically a master list of all the stuff you have to do – is especially necessary for our thinking style in order to make room for more thoughts? Maybe one would even sleep better?
Think I’ll try it out tonight.
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