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http://totallyadd.com/forum/topic.php?id=1330 Read this.

I had almost no friends when I was young. I started online after High School and my social skills slowly improved over time. You can just hangout with a group of people in person, not say anything and you’ll pick up a lot. Only talk when you feel comfortable doing so. Also, I really can’t chat well with normals. An ADHD person is only person who can keep up with me.

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I must add this. Those are just two of a number of requirements. When these are added together, you should understand why I say it’s like trying to win the lottery. My doubts grow with each day. I have hope, but there isn’t much left. I’m going to pursue the ideas, but i’m not holding my breath about finding someone.

Funny note, it’s not just about sex with the imaginary girlfriend, no really!

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>Non-ADD Spouse groups, Dual ADD marriage groups

We need more details. Clarify this more.

Discussions for married couples: Both with ADHD, One with and without ADHD.

Dealing with communication issues, Sex&Love, Money, Household tasks assignments

We want to make it not too long a drive. Say, no more than 2hrs.

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Failed out my first year in community college till I got tested for learning disabilities and got help. My grades got much higher with the quiet room and double time.

I started university in 1998 and it ended in 2001. It was an insanely hard and intensely rewarding experience of my life. I had no social life, just one class after another. I just barely kept going, but graduated with Cum Laude.

B.A. in Cinema and Television Arts with honors.

Nothing compares to the thrill on that final day with the cap and gown. I threw that cap really high that day. Nothing can take away that achievement. Hang the degree proudly on your wall.

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Lets break down the tasks. Not rush into it. First locations, generally take it as country->state/province->region.

USA->California-> Northern, Central Coast, Southern

Anyone else, add your info to the list. Events(they take into account our short attention span):

Live stage plays with our favorite moments, laughing at ourselves.

Round table discussions of various issues: life lessons, married life, single life.

Let us showcase our talents: singers, musicians, artists, comedians, etc.

Married couple groups, singles groups.

Starting your own business ideas and tips for any income level.

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No offensive intended, the opposite thing works for some. To me it means being a lemming, settling for the first warm body that comes along. I don’t settle. Relationships are NOT the center of my existence. They are the desert after the meal(no pun intended).

-Being with a political conservative makes me sick, let alone kissing one. GAG!

-You want to get married and breed?? Euuuuuuuu(running away at top speed). I’m childfree for life. I’v known since I was seven that neither was for me. I need long hours of quiet isolation in order to function.

Lianne you are cute. Can’t imagine you having trouble. Good looking or not, “finding someone is so dam hard”, from movie “hitch”. “It’s long road when you face the world alone.”, “hero” Mariah Carey. Also, I got those statements over the years. I’m still looking, good luck to you.

Being ADHD has some advantages, were single minded(hyperfocus). No matter how discouraged I get, I keep trying. We’re like the energizer bunny. We just keep going and going. Singing and typing at same time, normal people try this.

Check out the website videos, I think it’s about 5%.of the population. Checkout my ADHD dating and convention topics.

Been singing since 1987(not in public), nothing like singing to get rid of the blues.

(singing as finish this) “Beauty_and_the_Beast”, Celine_Dion.

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>*scratches head* You’re sick of being hit on? wow, never heard a guy say that before.

I need to clear this up. I’v chatted with tons of women over the years. There have been crushes for me, but never a true connection. So, I get bored and move on. Physically my tastes are very rare. When I say nothing in common, I mean NOTHING IN COMMON. She has nothing interesting to chat about.

Finally, I managed to write it all down, all the things I needed and what was turning me off. What you describe would never happen with me. All fit that opposite realm. I’v shorten it as far as it will go. She doesn’t meet the minimums. It’s a massive turn off. Meeting someone with ADHD might be person who matches up, a few dates at least.

The few that have hit on on me(I could count it on one hand), are physically a total turn off and nothing in common. So, I see ones that are fun to dance with, but no chemistry and/really boring when chatting. It’s very frustrating. I have better chance of winning the lottery than finding someone from my planet.

I’m trying the female friend idea who can look for me. Female friends are interesting to hangout with, even if no sexual chemistry. Still waiting to hear back from them.

Seriously, I thought I was gay until I saw images of women on the internet that, well, turned me on(nothing illegal, just unusual).

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Thanks for the info.

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http://totallyadd.com/forum/topic.php?id=850#post-7066

Read it. Maybe it will inspire you. It’s been very very bad life, but I could be homeless. Consider, things could be much worse for you. Survival mode stinks for you. Imagine two decades of it.

Also, I see people have meltdowns for some stupid trivial things. I think, “you flipped out OVER THAT.” Consider this time a test of will. How much can you take before you go insane? You haven’t put a gun to your head. Your still here. That’s a good thing.

Keep searching for work or trying independent business ideas. Your tougher than you think. One of ADHD peoples best traits is hyper-focus and tenacity. We tend to be single minded. Take advantage of that.

Plus get on food stamps and/or welfare, if you qualify. If not, wait till do and get it. Don’t make the mistake I did by letting your pride in the way. Suck it up and get help.

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I live in CA, USA. I’d love to meet fellow ADHD persons. See my convention post.

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I live in CA. I’m on government health what little coverage there is. It’s headache to deal with them. I’d move to Canada if I had the money and a job.

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>In my younger dating years, I never got that when a potential soul mate [:wink:] would tell me that I was a great guy BUT she just wants to be “friends”.

Lady’s don’t ever say, “I want to be just friends.” to someone who likes you. This is far worse than cheating on him. You may as well carve out his heart with a rusty knife. I’v had this done to me many times over. It’s horrible, the worst thing ever to do a guy.

If he wants more than friends, use something else, say you have a boyfriend. Walk away and don’t interact with them ever again. Don’t torture him by being around. This is a much better method of dealing with it. I wish the women did this for me, instead of “just friends”, ugh.

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I posted on “ADD and religion” a truth that no-one wanted discuss, how mono-theists joined the “dark side of the force” during the dark ages and middle ages(and some later). The systematic campaign of genocide against pagans. How they had warped history, since they were the victors. Using any justification they could to distort history, past and present. How even today modern pagans face discrimination and harassment. The lies, manipulation, torture, death, etc of group of -people-. Who’s only crime was practicing the old religion. How the mono-theistic leadership was corrupted by their lust for power.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/genocide

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crime_against_humanity

Mono-theists(catholic church and possibility others) are guilty of crimes against humanity. There is no debating it. Past crimes are still crimes. “Evil triumphs when good people do nothing.”

If didn’t have ADHD, I likely would have never seen this truth and became neo-pagan/new age. We see the truth as no one else can. We see through the lies and lust for power, see through the BS to pure truth.

We tell the truth and it does offend people sometimes. I rather have the truth than bury my head in the sand. Also, I was shy when I was younger, but I came out of my shell, mostly.

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>I used to miss a LOT of verbal and non-verbal clues when I was younger (and available). Looking back, I can see where I definitely missed quite a few opportunities with women due to my ADD. Even now I miss the clues! It’s not uncommon to find out from friends and family that someone I was talking to was obviously (to them) flirting with me.

So the question comes up, how did you GET together at all?? If your blind to non-verbals. Did she ask you out? Did she say for you to ask her out? Was it a blind double date?

>signs that we may have unintentionally offended someone.

I made a logical choice that the apartment I visited was not good for me. The person who was helping me find the low-income housing at this agency was criticizing me for it. She said, “The time we worked on it was wasted.” What?? I narrowed the field down to a valid one and applied to get on the waiting list. That was the point. I think I offended her some way. Since i’m baffled at her strange behavior.

I wonder why I get drained so quickly around people. :p

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I’v found that if I let my leg bounce, I will have far less a desire to constantly move around in my chair.

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